Stop ignoring your spouse at lifestyle eventsWe see a lot of times where one half of the spouse is so into the lifestyle they forget they have a spouse with them and focus all their attention on the new friends.  We want to remind everyone that this can be a very dangerous route and you should never ignore or forget that your spouse is with you.Watch on YouTube<a href=”http://www.youtube.com/tomandbunny” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Watch our podcast on video at</a>Twitter: <a href=”http://www.twitter.com/tomandbunny” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>http://www.twitter.com/tomandbunny</a>Instagram: <a href=”http://www.instagram.com/tomandbunny” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>http://www.instagram.com/tomandbunny</a>TranscriptTomHey, everyone. We’re Tom and Bonnie, and we got Bama here. Bama wants her stuffed animal. Hold on. Right here. Let me get her. If you’re watching this on YouTube, this is Bama. Bama bear right now.BunnyShe doesn’t know that we have to work.TomSo we’re Tom and Bonnie from Tom and Buncombe. And if you are interested in pineapple topics, check us out on YouTube and on podcast on all the major podcast sites. Tom and Bonnie. And if you can, follow us on Twitter, Instagram, Tom and Bonnie and we work for Tom’s troops.com cheerleader and adult lifestyle travel to destinations all around the world with cruises, resorts and events.TomWe asked if these videos help you and we’ve done a lot of videos. If these videos help you, please help us by booking any of your trips with Tom’s trips, because this is how we get paid to do these videos. It cost you nothing and oftentimes you save money booking with Tom’s trips. Yes.BunnyAnd even if, you look at and you say, oh, well, they don’t have a group that week, I can still book you. Yes. If it’s available online, I can book it for you.TomYep. We can book hedonism all year long and we also book Desire and Temptation, as well as The Bluest blessed Desire and Temptation Cruises. Yes. And Nadia Nolan’s.BunnyOf course. And now splash parties.TomAnd splash parties. So today’s topic is.BunnyHelp you stay out of the doghouse?TomYeah, stay out of the doghouse because, Bunny, she brought this up a couple weeks ago.BunnyI brought it up and several months ago when I was first approached. I mean, we’re approached a lot with different things.TomSo let’s give the scenario what you’re up. I mean, what we’re saying is neglect.BunnyYeah. Yeah, it is neglect on your spouse. Yeah. So basically what’s have basically.TomWell what’s what’s written down up here.BunnyLet’s just start when you’re getting ready to go on lifetime vacation, to one of the great events.TomThe club.BunnyEven a club or a night out with another couple or a single, you want to talk about possibilities of scenarios, so you want to know where your partner is in line with you.TomAnd where your boundaries are.BunnyYou don’t want to be ten steps ahead of your partner.TomAnd you got to make sure that you both like without.BunnyYour partner knowing.TomWithout your partner know. Yeah. Oh, our previous video, we talked about our boundaries and, we started off with a book of rules of what we couldn’t do. And then we created boundaries based on our actual real life experiences and activities because we talked about each scenario. Even still today, 20 some years later, almost 30 years later, we talk about every scenario as if it were a first time scenario.TomAnd we want to know what we liked about it, what we could have done better. Yeah, to make it even more fun. But and then not a requirement is if there was anything we did not like about the scenario, we would either discuss it out our adopt a boundary about it. One of our boundaries is, is we keep an eye on each other during the whole socializing to play all the time.TomNot that we’re watching each other like a hawk. We’re watching to make sure that we’re all on the same page. We’re having a good time. If someone’s not having a good time, we can pick up the cues. That goes for either me or me, our buddy. I won’t be here, buddy. So.BunnyAnd and that even that even goes for the other couple. If if I’m seeing something that, you know, one of them isn’t feeling it or feeling clicky, I will even say, hey, is everything okay?TomI’ve seen buddy, I’m struggling. And Bonnie’s called the wife over because we we all know each other’s buttons to push. And there are times of emergency where somebody is trying their best, but they’re not just making the grade. And sometimes it’s the spouse that gets them over.BunnyYeah. Absolutely. And I’ve done it for Tom before many.TomMany times, many.BunnyMany times I’d be like hold on let me, let me help you here. You know, let let’s get him back to where he needs to be.TomWell, because I like with any new people, they don’t know my buttons and therefore I may not really care for what they’re doing to me. And then finally, I’ll say, hold on, let me show you a couple things. Not that we the whole point of the pineapple lifestyle is to experience different types of, experiences.BunnyRight?TomAnd then hopefully we’ll be that, lead off of that and bring it home with us.BunnyBut we also know that, that when guys aren’t feeling it, that, it tends to. Deter the, the play situation a little bit. So sometimes you need help.TomSo one thing that buddy’s been getting a lot of comments on, I haven’t gotten on, but they’ve been coming to funny is a lot of frustrations where their spouse is more into to the other person and not caring about their feelings. Are there at the time level? Yes. Of security.BunnyCorrect.TomOr safe space?BunnyYeah.TomSo like I love using that word.BunnyNow this is and I actually have seen it. Yes, I seen it just recently on, on a chat where, one of the, spouses was texting back and forth too much. And even though he was asked to stop, even though he was asked to stop, he still hasn’t.TomAnd that is that the one where they have a group chat?BunnyNo.TomOh, so I saw one today where they have a four way group chat. Our three way group chat. Because it’s, single female and the husband is they were private messaging at first, and then when they started to make plans to meet up, they then added his wife into a group chat. And so that way she was aware.TomSo that way, when the husband went out on a date, she was aware of all the plans and everything. Then she found out that they were texting the husband and the other girl, still privately and excluding her. Now we would have a major issue. Oh yeah, one of us did that with the other.BunnyAnd and for me, I mean, for me, that’s just another form of cheating. And I.TomWell, in our eyes.BunnyBecause it’s a mentally. It doesn’t cheating doesn’t have to just be physical.TomRight.BunnySo and I am seeing the lot in and it’s not people that have been in this life for a long time. It’s most of the people that are just starting because they’re so excited and they’re, they’re jumping in with both feet and they’re forgetting that they have a partner with them.TomRight.BunnySo they’re like going forward and then they’re like, oh, crap, I pissed off my partner.TomWell, without saying any names, we we seen it happening at hedonism with a couple where they weren’t even together. The female brought the guy and the guy was just bam, bam, bam, bam, bam, bam bam. And it kind of created a wedge because she didn’t feel included in any of his stuff. So, I think she brought the wrong person.BunnyOh, and that happens. That happens. So he’s a.TomNice enough guy.BunnyBut but but the fact is, is if you’re married or you have a spouse or a partner or anything, you need to include them in your train of thought.TomRight?BunnySo I always, you know, the best thing is, is to talk about scenarios like, if you’re going out to a club, kind of think about what might could possibly happen.TomI mean, you don’t have to overthink it. No, I always say go to the club with the anticipation of nothing’s going to happen except just you and your wife or you and your husband, depending on who’s watching this video, just going and having a good time with no expectations. And if something happens, be prepared.BunnyBut that’s where I’m saying I know you need to discuss those scenarios. You say we’re going to go have a good time, but if this happens, do we want to go forward, right? How far do we want to go? You need to have those already kind of in your little guideline.TomI know, like, if a single hour couple, What are the signals if we’re not interested and one of us isn’t interested? I mean, always be aware of your partner’s feelings before anybody else’s, right?BunnySo one of the scenarios that I had is, there was, a for some going on and every and three of them seem to be having a good time. And the one was just kind of standing out on the outside because he didn’t really know how far it would go and how far he could go. And his wife was having a great time, and then he decided to have intercourse with the other female.BunnyAnd his wife freaked.TomFreaked.BunnyFreaked.TomOut.BunnySo she was like, no, you were not supposed to do that, right? It was. And it was basically implied it was going to be all about her. But he didn’t know that.TomWell, I mean, I want it to be all about you, but I want to be included.BunnyI know, I know, but two days later, she still was not speaking to him. Wow.TomAnd with that, I and I was telling Barney, you know, the a lot of people do videos TikToks podcast that the pineapple world is less divorces than any other field or any other lifestyle. But first off, there are no statistics. Not one single statistic out there goes specifically out pineapple people. Did you get divorce? Yeah. Okay. Then boom, right?TomNo, seriously.BunnyI know, I know.TomThey claim that they know these statistics out there and there are none. So the fact is, is we ran a club for 20 years. We saw a lot of divorces. Was it because of the lifestyle? Who knows? Who cares? The fact this is we’re thinking that if they did get a divorce, a lot of it was probably just they couldn’t communicate with each other.BunnyThat’s exactly what it was. Could they even, you know, he was like, every day, come to me and talk to me. And I’m like, you need to talk to her. She’s not talking to me. Well, that’s part of the problem. Because if.TomYou’re huge problem.BunnyIf you’re pissed off at your spouse or your partner, you need to communicate, not just sit there and.TomAnd guys, take this as a hint. Don’t get so pissed off. You leave your wife at a resort or no by herself.BunnyOh my god.TomBecause revenge is real. It’s big. We’ve seen guys get pissed off at their girl leave thinking they’re going to be all macho, and she’s going to come running. Hell no. We seen the girl bang the entire club. And then go home and tell him all about how he screwed up.BunnyYeah. And then.TomThey’re divorced.BunnyYeah.TomI’m not laughing about the divorce. I’m not saying it’s just part of life.BunnyWell obviously if he left her at the club he left her before.TomRight. And also be careful about fantasies of like having your wife do all these guys, because sometimes the wife can reset you. In the beginning she might be submissive. It might be kind of for it worse. Yeah.BunnyBut but if your partner says, hey I don’t like this or I don’t want to do this again.TomEverything don’t stop until you talk about it.BunnyRight. Don’t try to convince. Don’t try to push the subject, especially that night or that weekend.TomSorry, I’m looking for our dog.BunnyIf somebody says that they don’t like something now, it’s not the time to push it. Now. Now is the time to stop it. And we can revisit that later. Go home.TomYeah, sleep on it. I mean, if you’re, It’s kind of like that drunk person who wants to apologize and become besties again five seconds after a huge argument, right? It’s not the time or place.BunnyThere are certain scenarios that, yeah, definitely need a little bit of talking out. Need it more than ten minutes sometimes. Yeah. You can be pissed off at each other for quite a while. Right? And don’t don’t let extracurricular or fun time in come in between your yourselves and you know and that was the other thing is I’m hearing a lot in it’s both from male and female that their partner is paying more attention to their play partner than they are.TomI have seen that. And,BunnyIt’s almost like they come in and they’re like, oh, there’s my friend, and they’re like, gone, right? And they don’t pay attention. They don’t check in on their on their partner to make sure that they’re okay or they’re having a good time and they’re lovey dovey over here. And their partners like this. No. Read that body language. If that’s something that you don’t want.BunnySorry, I talk with my hands. If that’s something that makes you feel comfortable, you need to let your partner know. And if your partner says this is making me feel uncomfortable, then you need to discuss it, not not just let it roll. Roll off of you.TomNo, no, I, I totally I’m I’m hearing you.BunnyBecause you because we’ve seen it. We’ve seen it a lot.TomAnd I just, I, just me and Bunny have always been able to communicate. And communication is the key to a successful marriage. Our success a successful time in the pineapple world. Communication is important in life in general. If you can’t, if you cannot openly talk about everything with your spouse. I don’t have any words.BunnyNo.TomNo, I mean, I don’t have any words of encouragement because my encouragement is for you to communicate with your spouse.BunnyAbsolutely. And communication also means body language. You’ve got to be able to read your partner to write, if there might be a scenario where they’re gagged and you can’t say anything.TomBut it’s just, how have you been? Yeah.BunnyNo, no, no. You know that that would not happen. You are going in the other night. I know I’m going in the other night. I have a bad gag to.TomSpit on that thing.BunnyBut no, that could be a situation like with Tom, his death. So he’s got to constantly be watching.TomI do, because I take my hearing aids out.BunnyAnd sometimes if he doesn’t get this, like, he doesn’t understand that, I’m like.TomI.BunnyBut no, you you know your partner well enough that you know when by looking at body language, by looking at expressions that they’re not comfortable and that’s when you need to pay attention. And you need to determine, especially for the ones that are guilty of giving the play partner way much more attention than their other partner. You need to reevaluate if that’s what you really want.BunnyBecause you keep pushing that level, you’re going to end up in the hole or.TomI’m just letting money talk. This is our topic.BunnyThis is my topic. I’m not used to just letting money talk.TomI know I’m usually the one talking, but I’m just letting you free flow on this one.BunnyYeah, because I just look at my. It’s like to see the hamster and I’m like, you’re going to fall asleep or no, no, no, no.TomI, I’m actually intrigued because you wanted to talk about this topic because like I said, people don’t approach me on that stuff. They approached Bunny because she’s a female and they feel less threatened or they think, I’m going to charge. I mean, I don’t charge anybody, but me and Bunny are always willing to help everybody. We don’t want to see anyone break up or.BunnyYou know, have a.TomDivorce. But we also don’t want to see somebody ruin a marriage either.BunnyNo, absolutely.TomNot, ma’am, but we are 38 years married. 39 years together. We were always told in the pineapple world that it would break us up. We’d be jealous. And yeah, we’ve had our share of jealousies and everything. We just talk, we communicate. I mean, I just can’t express it enough. That communication.BunnyYou know,TomI had to get that word out.BunnyYes, yes, I was talking to somebody, last October, and, I was talking to another gentleman, and, and we were talking about that same scenario, and I said, I said, you know, Tom and I have been together 38 years, and I still get jealous. And he goes, do you get jealous or do you get envious? And I’m like, excuse me?BunnyHe’s like, are you jealous that he’s really having a good time? Or are you envious that he’s having a good time and you’re not?TomThat’s her great.BunnyAnd I’m like, you’re absolutely right. You’re absolutely right.TomNo.BunnySo so yeah, you got to think is a jealous or is envious. And that’s when I say, fine, I’m going to take my ball and go home.TomYep. And she takes me home.BunnyBut I was like, yeah you’re that it that I was like after all these years? I said, you know what? That kind of slapped me in the head. That was like a an eye opener because, yeah, your absolutely right. And he goes, because of the fact is you’re not jealous. You’re still having a good time, but you’re envious because you know what she’s getting and that you like getting that.BunnyAnd you’re not right now.TomI’ll say that’s true.BunnyRight? Yeah.TomYeah, I’ll say that. That’s 1,000% true.TomBecause you know when you, when you go meet up with people whether it’s single a couple, you don’t know what you’re going to get until you’re right. I mean these pictures with Coke cans and remote controls, you don’t know if it’s the tiny remote or the.BunnyBig, big remote.TomYou don’t know if it’s the little six ounce cans of soda or the 12 ounce cans or the the 16. But it’s just, I mean, yeah. I, I totally get that. I mean, I, I’ve been with females where they are more pillow princesses. Yes. And so I’ll use the word envious. I’m envious that the other guy has you and I am.BunnyTrying to do everything under the sun to help.TomYeah, I guess I feel neglected.BunnySee?TomSee?BunnyYeah, yeah.TomSo I get it.BunnyYeah, but that was an eye opener. I’m like, whoa, okay. That was that was a good one that he brought up.TomSo you’re no longer jealous. You’re just envious.BunnyYes, absolutely. But I think if Tom went out on a date, I, I would be so jealous.TomOh, you’d be a stalker.BunnyI think.TomFollowing us and.BunnyThat is way beyond.TomI look over my shoulder to be tucked down, looking at. Yeah. No, that would be funny.BunnyI would yeah, that’s way beyond my comfort zone.TomBut yeah, we see, it happens all the time. I mean, a lot of events, even people were close with we we never say anything because it’s not our place unless they ask us. Because we don’t interject ourselves into other people’s lives. Except for here on video. And you’re willing you’re able to hit stop or close out the window.TomYou don’t have to watch us or listen to us, but we see a lot of people where they put a lot more focus on their play partner than they do their own spouse. We just seen a, couple of events ago, and a whole like, dating scenario where, I mean, me, I’m funny after 39 years, we want to be this close to each other.TomWe work together, we live together. We are this close together, believe it or not, 23 to 24 hours a day, every day, seven days a week, all year long. We’re really not apart, and we prefer not to be.BunnyThe only time we’re part is when we’re in the restroom.TomThat’s the only time we’re apart. But we’re still within yelling range. Yeah, but, I, I couldn’t if we are. I mean, if we’re friends with another couple. Yeah, we’re totally good. Don’t don’t take it out of context that we can pal around and hang on to the other person and do fun stuff, but if it comes down to just intimately holding hands, are acting like you’re the couple and not.TomYeah, me and Bonnie, that that’s just a different scenario for us. But we have a lot of friends where we can paddle around with each other, and we just don’t. We don’t get envious. Whoa, whoa. Going rooster block each other. No problem.BunnyYep. Absolutely. But yeah. So that’s just the biggest thing is keep your eyes open, keep your mind open and keep keep an eye on your partner too. And make sure that they’re within the loop.TomAnd and people can lose interest in each other if you’re not showing, the other one the attention that they. Oh that they deserve or need. I was just telling somebody and I know where I talked about the divorcing. We have an album in our Facebook and we had 109 couples and people whenever they say, oh yeah, the divorce rate is so low in the lifestyle because it’s statistically proven, because you can communicate that no, divorcing emotions can also create huge issues, because when you have an emotional attachment, someone else that your spouse can’t compete with.TomCorrect. But I go, I went, I I’ll pull up that photo album and I like see these couples see these couples, they look happy, right? They’re like yeah, yeah, yeah. All 75% of our divorce. 75%. And like I said earlier we don’t know if it’s because of the lifestyle and it could be any number of reasons.TomBut it probably all boils down to a common denominator of lack of feeling. The other ones are like a lack of interest or no communication, passion or no sexual desires or.BunnyRight. Absolutely.TomAnd and at 39 years, we still think that you should be desiring each other sexually, as you did when you were dating. Because when you were dating, the focus, honestly, was to get laid right?BunnyExactly.TomIt was to find your soulmate. It was to find a compatibility factor. That’s where I never understood. No sex before marriage. Because then you’re kind of stuck. And there’s a lot of divorces. Are that because.BunnyOh, yeah.TomThey didn’t measure up to each other’s, what they thought would be like.BunnyNo, I, I completely get that. Yeah I completely.TomGet that the whole hot wife thing, it works for some people and I, we’ve seen it not work for a lot of people. So hot wife thing is something we would never recommend. If someone does it that’s fine. We have no issues with it. But we would never try to talk anyone into it, nor would we recommend it, because I don’t think a lot of people could handle that scenario well.BunnyAnd the fact is, is if, you if you really think that your wife wants to do it, then you really need to make sure that she really wants to do it. Because we met some men and he was just a narcissist, and he basically forced her to do it.TomYes. And I mean, he was literally calling guys.BunnyAnd she.TomAnd he even asked us because we were meeting them. And next thing you know, he’s like, hey, do you mind if I have a couple singles come over and nail or why, why you guys are here? And I’m like, no, dude, we’re out of here.BunnyHe got off on it. She hated it. Yeah, she she.TomTries to take her out of there and I’m like, I didn’t know what to do in that scenario.BunnyShe said, I am leaving him, I feel used I don’t want to do this. So you’ve got to make sure you’re both on the same level. Yeah. And if think I’m like, I just can’t reiterate the fact of the feelings change. If you don’t want to do it, then you need to stand up and say, I don’t like this, I don’t want to do this anymore.BunnyAnd then your partner should respect you in figure things out.TomWell, the whole thing about the, pineapple world is compromises. Somebody has a fantasy and it’s, I mean, hopefully you can let your spouse live out their fantasies. That’s the whole, point of including other people into your life because some fantasies require more than one person and yes, a person not willing to do things that your spouse isn’t willing to do.BunnyWell, and also, two fantasies can be just in your head. In reality, is a good slap kick in the nuts.TomNow, we’ve seen people break up because they, one of them had all these wild fantasies and they came true and they couldn’t handle it. They wanted nothing to do with the other person, and it was their fantasies that backfired on them. And they were the ones disgusted with the other one for helping fulfill those fantasies. How messed up is that?BunnyOh yeah. Yeah. Let’s go back into the narcissist there. Yeah. But. So no. Yeah. It’s a very, very fine line. I think.TomI’m pulling up my.BunnyGlasses. But not only is it that fine line, but like you say, it’s just that communication. You’ve got to communicate it. Just make this pineapple world fun. It’s fun as you can.TomIf you’re.BunnyNot. It’s supposed to be.TomYeah. If you’re not having fun, if you if you can’t go out and without having something to do with someone else, it may come back to haunt you later. Like, remember that your spouse is the most important person like Tom.BunnyAnd I say we are very, very social pineapple people. So for us it’s just a matter of going out, having fun, flirting, harmlessly, flirting. If it leads to something, then that’s great. If not, then we’ve value a friendship. We are now part of the community. Well, we’re not having. I mean, we’re having fun, but we’re not meeting the people that we want to meet.BunnySo now we’re looking for pineapple first. Yeah. So we can go out and have fun with people. We like to have fun with.TomPineapple people are just more fun to be.BunnyThey are much more fun to be around. You don’t have to worry about. You don’t have to worry about, offending somebody because you’re wearing a too low kind of a shirt or. Or you can go on a Jeep ride with wearing them side boob shirt without.TomWithout no.BunnyBra with a right. Exactly.TomNo. It’s true, because, I just put up a thing, because we’re going to go to cheap and base and, and, Pigeon Forge and, August. Yep. And it’s going to be all through Pigeon Forge, Gatlinburg. And this last year there was like 50,000 shapes star expecting more this year they say to go a mile. It might take you an hour to two hours because it’s just it’s a slow crawl and we’re looking forward to that.TomSo I and all these people are posting, like, we have a solid black tie, so they’re doing a black T meet up and they’re going to take a big picture. All the black tips I did. You see the pink Jeep meet up? I didn’t realize there were hundreds of them. And there’s just a big picture with it.TomLooks like a thousand pink jeeps all in one picture.BunnyI might have to be in a gray jeep next year.TomA gray t.BunnyTold you if I. If I get a Jeep, what I’m doing with it.TomWhat are you doing with it?BunnyPutting thumper on it.TomOh. So, there there were people about the red jeeps and white, every jeep color. And then somebody goes, is there going to be a singles meet up? And I thought, well, that’s a great idea, because mostly it’s a lot of it’s going to be families. So I found if you’re familiar or not on the Jeep, they have trail badges and you earn them.TomBut there was, an upside down pineapple with horns and a tail and it just says plays well with the others. 4×4. And I posted that I didn’t think it was going to get approved because this is a very family friendly Facebook group. And it two weeks later, all of a sudden it popped up, approved. I was like, oh my God, there’s like seven, almost 18,000 profiles in here.TomI’m like, I am either going to get slaughtered or so immediately I got 150 either likes hearts are laughing emojis. I got a couple of angry emojis. I got three comments, that were negative. One is, really this community has dole out those people in it and I’m thinking, you know, look around at all your friends, family, coworkers, people you sit next to in church.TomYou probably know pineapple people and not realize it because we don’t just come out, we know how to act well. Most of us know how to act normal. Yeah. And, social environment. A lot of the comments are pretty good and people are sharing it. People are tagging it, and there’s, vendor who’s going to be selling little cheat badges, and they have one that says, upside down pineapple, if you know, you know, and they’re like 25 bucks, I’m like, I might have to buy one.TomI don’t want to put it on my Jeep, but, I just thought to support that and I was talking to her. She’s not in the lifestyle, but I committed her for producing stuff that would be promotable or sellable to other people that aren’t. Are not her demographic.BunnyCorrect?TomMostly the coins are challenge. Coins are military, police, firemen, first responders. So it’s kind of cool to see an actual, real, bona fide upside down pineapple.BunnyExactly.TomBadge. So, we’ll get that. But I was talking to her, and I was telling her, I said, you know, probably 20% of that group is in the pineapple lifestyle somehow. Because in California, they did a study, the local news, and they went around surveying people. And it came out that 1 in 4 couples admitted to at least trying something in the pineapple world one time.TomThey didn’t ask any father. So that meant if you walk your neighborhood and count 100 houses, 25 possibly could be pineapple people.BunnyYep.TomYou go to your work, you got 100 people that work in your office. 25 could be pineapple people. I know if you’re a police officer, it’s probably 85%.BunnySchool teacher, a.TomSchool teachers, nurses. But I mean, different lines of work are going to accumulate that 25% down. But that also goes for churches. I mean, the the moral majority aren’t so moral when they keep a secret like this.BunnyDid you see the the one going around now that there was some type of a list and it says the most swingers per capita is Pennsylvania?TomOh, I the one that say that. Yeah. And well, but they didn’t even put California on there.BunnyNo.TomSo they’re skewed I mean, and I even post I even wrote to you that you could tell they were non pineapple people who did it just by the way. They were a few things. They, they were very naive or trying to be just a plain where someone like us would have wrote the list and yeah, got a little more definitive on it.TomBut when I told this girl who is going to be selling these batches about the pineapple world, she goes, oh my God. My friend basically said word for word, what? You just said that there’s going to be 20% of this group that would buy that batch and stuff like that. They might not put it on their cheap, but they might keep it at home.TomWe want to make a pact for with different cheap batches, and that would be one of them. And then she asked me to take it off, because I did promote it, that she was going to be selling them. So she must have gotten a little pushback. And, you know, I don’t I don’t, disagree with her wanting, me to know my post because I don’t want anyone to be dark.BunnyNo.TomAnd she wasn’t even in the pineapple.BunnyAnd that’s what I disagree with, because everybody has a right to their own business. Everybody has a right to make money, whether, it’s selling that or selling a set of tires. Right. And that’s where I just get so frustrated with people out there in the community that are so hateful towards another group of individuals.TomYeah. And that group of individuals, they just have a stigma in their head about that, group of individuals.BunnyRight.TomBut the fact is that group of individuals is a more honest group. They’re more they they’re more caring about other people.BunnyThey’re the first ones to jump up.TomTo paint our house in California.BunnyYeah.TomAnd we are just talking about it, man. But we’re going to paint it by ourselves. And we have like ten people. So, ready to work. I mean, not to socialize. They were pushed. Let’s do, let’s do one day start to finish prime, paint it.BunnyAnd then when we moved to when we bought our house in California, we were moving 80 miles away and we didn’t know where are we going to put all of our stuff. And somebody just randomly called us, we made, maybe once or twice and, he’s like, I got this property, I’ve got this, I’ve got that.BunnyYou can. You’re more than welcome to park your trailers here.TomYeah.BunnyI mean, just out of the blue. So our community is so much more helpful and is so much more caring, I think, than most any of the other.TomAnd we don’t have no judgments. And that’s the difference between the pineapple world, where there are a lot of people that I know. We’re totally off topic because we’re done with the other topic. I think. But there’s a lot of people that go to pineapple clubs and events, even hedonists, there’s a lot of nudist, there’s a lot of people that want to wear their bottoms and no tops.TomThere’s people that want to be naked, there’s people that want to play with others and that everyone gets along because, you know, if someone comes up and says, hey, do you want to play? All you guys says, no. Well, I’m not into that, but thank you. Take it as a compliment.BunnyBut it’s basically.TomIs,BunnyWe’re all in the same mindset of just want to have fun and meet people, right? And enjoy everybody’s.BunnyBeing around people and have fun. But socialize. Yeah. The socializing and, yeah, there’s people outside. They’re so closed minded that they won’t even think of anything beyond you’re having sex with somebody else.TomRight? And then that goes along with it. And I guess I will add into the topic of this. When we see people that focus on someone more than their own spouse, me and Bunny actually avoid both of them.TomBecause we just don’t want drama. And most people in the pineapple world, they’re, they want to be drama free. And we, we want to have fun. We want to smile. We don’t want to be the shoulder that they’re always crying on or talking about.BunnyCorrect? Very correct. Yep. All right I think we’re done with this one.TomWe are done.BunnyWe are done with you.TomWe’re done with you today. So until next time, definitely follow us everywhere. Just search Google, Tom and Bunny all one word. Tom and boo and and y and book your next trip with Tom’s trips.com your leader in adult lifestyle travel and let us further let us show you a good time.BunnyYou got that right. We’ll see you.TomSoon. We’ll see you soon. The post Stop ignoring your spouse at lifestyle events appeared first on TomandBunny.com.