– 09:30] Discovering Your Self-CareMelissa talks about her moment of realization to get over the grief and move forward.The numbness she felt for six months.The ultimate driving force to move forward was coming from her sons.The initiative to reach out and ask for help from a grief counselor Be more compassionate to yourself and be a little kinder It changed my life when I gave myself permission to take the utmost care of myself first.Melissa shares the moment of how she fell for alcohol for a while to cope with the grief.She asked for help from her brother.The social pressure and judgment as being strong. [09:31 – 19:20] Working With A Therapist To Work On YourselfMelissa shares her experience working with her therapist.It took her a few months to actually trust her therapist.The vulnerability piece to feel safe.The therapist helped to navigate through this extraordinary experience.Find the right person and build trust with your therapist.Melissa talks about the moment she decided to practice radical self-care to move.She was open to anything that would give her goosebumps.She started to get her bodywork done.Pay more attention to what was going on in your head.Start to build your vision and find ways to make it come true.Do not feel guilty for doing self-care.If you are not at your best for yourself, you are not at your best for anyone.[19:21 – 24:25] Sharing and Helping Others Melissa talks about her current situation and how she is currently doing all of her knowledge ever since.Hit the 10-year mark.She got remarried and lived in Oregon Coast.She talks about the book that she started to write three years ago.She creates a platform to share her experience and helps other women who went through a similar situation.A monthly subscription box for widows to help them with their self-care.Products that helped her and curated by her to nurture and soothe a widow’s soul.Give permission to take some time out because you can not think clearly if you in a high state of stress.It is your birthright to feel joy, and you get to have that.There is no moving on from grief, but we can move forward[24:26 – 29:12] Closing SegmentWhat are you working on now, and what are your year-long goals?To make Oregon her permanent home.Build her subscription box business to help other women.What would the new you say to the old you?Please, take care of yourself, choose yourself, and do it sooner than later.What is something that you would recommend to get someone through a tough situation?Ask and reach for help.Melissa recommends an organization for widows.Soaring Spirits International Foundation Connect with Melissa online! See the links below.Final words from me.Tweetable Quotes:“When I was stuffing everything down, I think to myself, this is got to come out, and I got to figure out a way to process this to really understand what happens and how to move forward with my kids.” Melissa Pierce.“It changed my life when I gave myself permission to take the utmost care of myself first.” - Melissa Pierce.“There is no moving on from grief, but we can move forward” - Melissa Pierce.Find out more and connect with Melissa on Facebook and Instagram. You can also visit and download the free self-care support guide from her website at www.filledwithgold.org.Surviving to Thriving is brought to you by Knight Protection Services. A veteran-owned and operated company, Knight Protection Services employs a diverse group of former law enforcement officers and military veterans of the highest integrity, with extensive experience in risk assessment and crime prevention. Find out more by visiting  https://knightprotectionllc.com/.For More Information About Surviving To Thriving:  http://tothriving.org/