Our relationship to God should reach a point where we move past simply fearing-His chastisement, to fearing His sorrow when we grieve Him. Consider the difference. On one hand, I fear the consequences of chastisement that the Lord might send my way if I sin willingly. On the other hand, I am now coming to realize that my growing fear is-how my sin will grieve Him -Ephesians 4-30-. Yes, He may choose to send chastisement my way in response to any unchecked sin in my life, but that would be fully deserved, wouldn't it- My increasing overriding goal though, is to simply not deliberately sin so that I do not cause Him grief. I fear-doing that- I'm sure you see the difference.