When your partner is in shutdown, you're not just watching it happen—you're in it too. This episode is for the partners who feel like they're losing their person, who don't understand what's happening, and who wonder if they're making it worse. In this episode, I break down:

• What shutdown actually looks like (and why it's not a choice)
• What you CAN'T control (and why that matters)
• 4 concrete ways to influence the situation without trying to fix them
• The myth of co-regulation and what it actually means
• How to regulate yourself so you can show up differently
• Why healthy boundaries aren't selfish—they're essential
• What your real job is as a partner in shutdown

The invisible pain on both sides is real. You're not failing. You're not weak. And you're not alone.

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It helps you recognize your state. It never tells you what you are. No quiz, no verdict, no card.

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This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms.  Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.

Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).

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Naming Your Stuckness

Not sure which stuck state you're in? That's normal, and more common than you'd think. I made a free page that lays the stuck states out in plain language so you can find words for what you're experiencing. No quiz, no email just to look: