This episode focuses on how to establish and sustain a healthy dynamic within the black family. My guest, Nicole Odom-Hardnett, a mother, wife, and relationship coach who specializes in healthy blended family dynamic, here to discuss just how we in the black family take back control over the foundation, love and nurture of our black families. She spoke about how black couples can establish a healthy balance when it comes understanding what you're good at verses what your mate is good at and how to defer to each other's expertise. 

Nicole also brought up just how things used to be when it came to it taking a village to raise a child, which unfortunately, we don't live in that time anymore. The growth and development of our children is predicated on the people around them that they need to constantly pour into them.

In it's divine order, each person within the black family has a role that they each play; man/husband/father, woman/wife/mother, and child or children. Whenever one of the parents is not present in their role, the other one has to do all they can to remain in their role but also have one foot in the absentees' role, which leaves the child or children to have to step halfway into an adult role all while trying to maintain their innocence of a child. Children too often are witnesses to unhealthy relationships being displayed by the parents which puts them in very unpleasant situations like being forced to take sides, arguments and fights occurring and parents bad-mouthing each other to the kids, and parents not fully being there for their kids.

We have to do a better job together to be the change that we want to see, which starts at home.A mother and a father is needed in every home of our black children, whom we're losing to the streets, prisons and the grave. In this millenium, our children should only have one responsibility; their education. They shouldn't be asked or be put in positions to have to grow up too soon. Special thanks to Nicole for being on the show to talk to me about this.