)   Aren't we supposed to live in a community with other people especially other Christians?  Codependent Defined Codependence is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual's ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. It is also known as “relationship addiction” because people with codependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive. Mental Health America   An alcoholic seeks alcohol to deal with problems, stress, and issues that he does not want or have the skills to cope with today. A codependent seeks a relationship or a cause or a group to invest themselves in because they also do not have the skill to cope with their painful issues. Unable to deal with their own reality, codependents look for a relationship or a cause that needs them desperately.  In this situation, their role is the hero or savor.