An interview with Lisa who lost her husband 14 years ago to opiate and alcohol addiction.  She shares her healing journey, the discovery of her enabling and the realisation that her fixing behaviour was impacting her life and ultimately her children. She describes moving from a position of anger to one of compassion, with the need for a lot of honesty central to her recovery. 

Lisa made the scary decision she made to walk away, leaving  her marriage and raising two children on her own, setting up a business as a way of taking care of herself and her children.   She shares the self doubt she faced, and her perseverance, simply because there was no other option. All the while, she ensured to maintain a sense of family with her ex husband, making an effort to do things as a family., giving her kids memories with their father. 

Honesty is central to her healing, the self inventory and the realisation that her own trauma impacted the way that she managed her marriage.  She didn't want to talk about their father as the problem, the problem wasn't just addiction, but it was trauma. And the dynamic they all operated in. Something had to change - you cannot control someone else's behaviour. You cannot fix an addict. The only thing that we can control is ourselves.