Shrinks On Tap
Shrinks On Tap
Dr. Lauren Fisher, PsyD & Dr. Eleni Boosalis, PsyD
Laidback or Avoidant? How Comfort Can Quietly Keep You Stuck
32 minutes Posted Feb 5, 2026 at 2:00 pm.
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Are you genuinely laidback — or are you avoiding the discomfort required for real change?

In this episode of Shrinks on Tap, Dr. Lauren Fischer and Eleni Boosalis explore the often-overlooked difference between emotional ease and emotional avoidance. With trauma-informed insight, real clinical examples, and relatable metaphors, they unpack why growth almost always involves discomfort — and why so many people unconsciously resist it.

The conversation examines how avoidance can shape relationships, identity, career choices, and emotional patterns, especially when the nervous system has learned that chaos feels familiar. They also discuss why peace can feel uncomfortable after long periods of stress, and how intuition plays a critical role in meaningful change.

This episode is for anyone who feels stuck, conflicted, or unsure whether their current life is aligned — or simply familiar.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • The difference between being laidback and emotionally avoidant

  • Why discomfort is often a necessary part of growth

  • How trauma and nervous system patterns influence behavior

  • Why peace can feel unfamiliar after chaos

  • How intuition helps guide real change