I remember when I first got married my husband wanted me to dress like my bhabhi, because that’s what he had seen and expected that of me.

It was over time he began to appreciate my individuality but I believed in who I was even then.

We put two different people and ask them become clones of each other when one fails at meeting the expectation she is left with envy, disappointment and disgust. This may not be a third person but maybe one of the sisters in the relationship herself.

Accept each person for their own strengths and highlight them for who they are versus who you expect them to be.