We are the reflection of the kindness and gentleness we treat ourselves. When we speak harshly and badly about ourself internally, we unconsciously see others through that harsh, bad prism. When we think to ourself, about our self, in kindness and gentleness we find it easy to be kind and bear kindly with others. So, be kind and start with self. May Allah make kindness easy for you to spread. Aamiin.