A famous Sufi saying inspired this episode. And it inspired me to think about how many times I have been the source of the problems in my life by inviting the "elephant trainer" into my house - i.e. the person causing all the issues. There is no need to blame these people. They are who they are. The one to blame is us - we need to be clear about our needs and our expectations. Just because a person is good, kind and generous doesn't mean they meet our needs.