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PMP175: Middle School Matters with Phyllis Fagell
29 minutes Posted Nov 27, 2019 at 3:00 pm.
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    Do you remember what is was like to be a middle school student?
    For many people, memories of those years often bring back stories filled with anxiety and awkward physical, emotional, and social changes.
    According to Phyllis Fagell, however, those years can be good ones. “Probably what people might be most surprised to know is that I actually had a positive middle school experience, and I was really inspired to write because of my experience as an educator and seeing how dramatically different childhood is today than when I was growing up.”
    A school counselor and authorPhyllis Fagell has insights for middle school students and their parents.
    “A lot of people have difficulty anticipating their own child going to middle school because they bring negativity to the table,” she explains. “I like to reassure parents that their own memories actually are inflated because they too were going through puberty. Actually those experiences weren’t probably markedly worse than any negative experiences they had at other times when growing up.”
    In this week’s podcast episode, Phyllis Fagell, makes a guest appearance and shares about the skills middle school students need to develop. She provides an overview of ten skills, and she unpacks a few key areas where school leaders can provide stronger guidance.
    Phyllis’s Bio
    Phyllis Fagell
    Phyllis Fagell is a lincened clincal professional counselor, certified professional school counselor, author, and journalist. She has worked in both public and private schools with students in grades K-12, focusing on middle school for the several years. She currently works full time as the school counselor for Sheridan School in Washington, D.C. As a journalist, Phyllis writes for a number of national publications and is a frequent contributor for Washington Post on counseling, parenting and education. She is the author of the new book, Middle School Matters: The 10 Key Skills Kids Need to Thrive in Middle School and Beyond – and How Parents Can Help. 
    10 Skills for Middle School Students
    At the start of our conversation, Phylliss provides an overview of the 10 key skills kids need to know to thrive in middle school and beyond, which include the following:
    * Make good friend choices* Negotiate conflicts* Manage a student-teacher mismatch* Create homework and organization systems* Consider others’ perspectives* Self-advocate* Self-regulate emotions* Cultivate passions and recognize limitations* Make responsible, healthy, ethical choices* Create and innovate
    Responsible and Ethical Choices
    She also unpacks areas where school leaders can better understand those need areas for their students, including how principals can help students develop responsible/ethical choices. She shares how a veteran principal used meaningful responsibilities as a way for students to build positive identities at school and decrease behavior challenges among his middle school population. 
    Finding ways to engage students in building their own strategies also helps them own their learning and empowers them to support school practices. With cell phones, for instance, Phyllis argues that most students want a break from technology but want the rules enforced consistently – if everyone is complying, they avoid Fear of Missing Out or FOMO. 
    The more we treat students with respect, she explains, the more likely they are to participate in fulfilling expectations.