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Women receive mixed messages to be authentic but also to conform, fall in line, fit in. It’s a challenging tightrope to walk but we have solutions. In this episode, learn how to discover your own authenticity, and then how to FLEX so that you can contribute at work in a way that reflects who you are. Subscribe! Time-stamped show notes are below. Intro 2:10 Women are told to be authentic but also to conform 2:29 We need to stop trying to change women 3:00 Mixed signals start at birth 5:05 Girls are trained to smile, be pleasant, play well with others 6:00 Sometimes we don’t know who we are Episode Breakdown 6:19 In today’s episode we will discuss: What is authenticity and what are tips for you to best discover who you are Why is authenticity at work critical How can you navigate between being authentic and the pressure to conform or fit in 6:40 Tracy J. Edmonds author of Wild Hair Tips to Discover Your Authenticity 9:20 Definitions of authentic Webster's definition 10:35 Uncover authenticity by asking who or what you trust what you cherish what brings meaning and purpose to your life what gives you peace Dr. Nithila Peter of eiLeads 12:45 (Cathy), 16:12 (Deborah) Who or what you trust answers 18:22 (Deborah), 19:50 (Cathy) What do you cherish answers 22:20 (Cathy), 24:40 (Deborah) What brings meaning and purpose to your life answers 28:25 (Deborah), 29:28 (Cathy) What gives you peace answers 30:46 (Cathy), 32:05 (Deborah) 3 characteristics or values 35:05 Strengths Finder by Tom Rath 35:30 Women have to prove themselves over and over again How to Understand Unconscious Bias So We Can See Women Why Authenticity Matters at Work 36:36 Inauthenticity akes you feel uncomfortable 36:58 Story of friend rated poorly because she was being authentic 38:15 ⅓ employees feel pressure to conform How to Be More Authentic at Work by Dr. Patricia Hewlin 38:30 Examples are: -parents downplay importance of parenting -employees won’t wear clothing reflecting their religion -people stay silent on social justice issues -people don’t speak up about inequity or workplace microaggressions 38:58 We learn when to smile, frown, nod How to Be More Authentic at Work by Dr. Patricia Hewlin 39:27 Being authentic improves marketing skills How to Express Authenticity - Flexing 40:20 What is flexing 40:38 Tips for those early in career 40:52 Tips for interviews 41:40 Using authenticity to nudge culture in the right direction 42:01 Examples: -Don’t like sports -Social justice issue matters to you -Challenges with parenting 42:28 Tip for allies 42:45 Flex through vulnerability 42:50 What is vulnerability Books by Dr. Brene Brown 43:30 Dr. Brene Brown 2010 Ted Talk: The Power of Vulnerability 43:44 Vulnerability births innovation, creativity, change Vulnerability is the birthplace of creativity, innovation, and change by Dr. Brene Brown 44:35 Importance of: Sharing new ideas at work Disagreeing with someone at work Admitting that you made a mistake 46:36 Risks of flexing authenticity 47:40 Leaders should model authenticity 48:20 Parity in Play 48:34 Afghan women and girls CSIS article 48:54 Girls barred from secondary school BBC article 49:10 Unconscious bias in the US How to Understand Unconscious Bias So We Can See Women Unconscious Bias: Hidden Forces Undermining Women at Work Where You Can Find Us Website: www.par-ity.com Follow us on Instagram, Twitter and LinkedIn Co-Hosts: Deborah Pollack-Milgate and Cathy Nestrick Contributor: Dr. Nithila Peter of eiLeads Email [email protected] with questions or comments
