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Parent Driven DevelopmentEpisode 048: Darcy Lockman - All The Rage: Mothers, Fathers and The Myth of Equal Partnership00:23 Welcome, Darcy!Darcy Lockman is a former journalist turned clinical psychologist and the author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership. Her first book, Brooklyn Zoo, chronicled the year she spent working on the psychiatric ward of a city hospital. She lives and practices (for the time being virtually) in New York City.00:39 Orgins of All The RageChild care falls on Darcy more than her husband.. moms more than dads?Why are we living like this?The impact of patriarchy on all of usWomen carry 65% childcare work, while men carry 35%The feminine is looked down in societyCommunality / agency - girls raised to be more communal, boys are raised to be more agentic Women join the workforce, but keep up with childcare dutiesKids easily influenced from their outside worldIdentification with the same sex parentGender detectives - searching for the group that they belong inThe one way glass studyWomen have this idea that their male partner should not be inconvenienced, and that it’s ok if they areWhat good dads get away withStay at home mom stigma After work “breaks” ?After work “breaks” ?Unequal experience, unequal ability Taking care of children takes practicePaid paternity leave for men in other countries - use it or lose it Techniques to share the workloadWomen tend to feel more responsible and may have to unlearn this feeling of taking no time offUnderbenifitor / Overbenifitor - both sides uncomfortablePossible progress to be made in couplesJC’s kids have been helping around the house since the pandemic hit, including dinner! #geniuswinChris grounds steak with kids to make tacos. They were a hit and ready to go, until Chris accidentally dropped a glass dish right next to the taco meat and glass got in the taco meat… Dinner restart #failDarcy embraces a sugar vacation during the pandemic and let’s her girls feast on junk food that is usually not allowed. #genuisfail maybe??Get your copy of All The Rage!### How can I support the podcast?Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at [email protected]. Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community!*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.PanelJC AvenaChris SextonSpecial Guest: Darcy Lockman.Sponsored By:RAYGUN: This episode is brought to you by RAYGUN. RAYGUN has been called, ’The Greatest Store in the Universe’ by RAYGUN. Saying they are the most important clothing store earth has seen since the early Mesozoic era. They specialize in t-shirts and modesty, and are completely made and produced in the USA. If you breathe oxygen, you’ll love it. Head over to Raygunsite.com to check out your next t-shirt purchase.