I saw him and there was this energetic pull I felt. – Lolo Urbiztondo 14:13 My kids will know that we had a former relationship. It's something I will never going to hide. – Jessica Esfandiary 15:13 We will remain open, we are not closing our relationship just because we are having kids. – Jessica Esfandiary 19:01 You are in the presence with your partner, and it's important to remember not to project your past and experiences that were traumatic on to your current relationship, because when you do that you make your partner wrong for the things that happened to you in the past. – Jessica Esfandiary  21:30 There are so many things to explore, and every different kink dynamic has a full spectrum. – Jessica Esfandiary 30:27 A good relationship with promise, or a partner that is showing up and its also doing the work, keeps me motivated. But if the other person isn’t engaging, the way that you are in this healthy way than I am unmotivated. – Jessica Esfandiary31:54 I look at it as like when you are in partnership you are in this love temple together and you are both adding in love deposits. – Lolo Urbiztondo36:05 For me dating myself hardcore was listening to the things I always wanted to do and checking them off my list. – Lolo Urbiztondo40:32 When you can look at everything that happens to you, even if it really sucks and hurts, as like happening for you and not to you, you start to look at life as a gift Jessica Esfandiary43:34 A quality person is going to create safety in your relationship whether they are with someone else as a primary or not-Jessica Esfandiary49:18 The crazy thing about non monogamy is that it's not about this new person. A lot of people think it is “oh I have such a great connection with this new person” but the truth is new person brings out a side of you that you love that you haven't experienced in awhile. – Jessica Esfandiary 50:00 We live in a society and a culture that is geared towards monogamy where people think that this is the norm and so it's really hard for people to break out the box. – Jessica EsfandiaryTake advantage of a 30% discount on Dr. Zhana's eligible courses with code "JESSICA", applied to the first payment only for offers with multiple payments or subscriptions.•     Open Smarter CourseThe product I love who support this show:• Honey Pot Lube and Massage Oil OPENLATE20• The Oh Club OPENLATE• Desire Resorts  This is a Sabbatical Jess Production