Only Trying to Help
Only Trying to Help
The Advocacy Academy
Only Trying to Help, Episode 131 The Urge to Fix
39 minutes Posted Oct 29, 2025 at 10:15 am.
Introducing Reyna
Understanding the Urge to Fix
Evolutionary Roots
Reyna’s Story/ Example
Negative Consequences of Giving Advice
Normalizing the Urge to Fix
Strategies
Wrapping Up
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In this episode, Dr. Kate Watson sits down with Reyna Puentes for a candid conversation about our natural urge to give advice—especially when we want to help. Together, they unpack why “fixing” often feels like caring, how advice-giving can unintentionally shut down connection, and what to do instead when someone comes to us in pain. It’s an honest, insightful look at the tension between wanting to help and learning to truly listen.