Types of disagreements Personal disagreement Marital and family disagreement Work disagreement Religious disagreements Personal disagreements Competition for resources Conflicting physiologies and personalities Conflicting views The "Adaab" to overcome these differences Identify the source of the conflict – Why are we even fighting Try to understand and respect the counter view – Learn to listen, Never judge the person or the intentions of the other person Try to work from common ground Ethics in dialogue - I statements vs You, Private vs Public, Not to hurt Look for a win-win solution - Everyone must a chance and everyone must compromise Objective outsider Gracious in victory and sorry in defeat Let go of past issues - Would you not like Allah to forgive your faults? Look beyond the incident Relationships with Family “… and fear Allaah through Whom you demand your mutual (rights), and (do not cut the relations of) the wombs (kinship)…” Surah Al Nisa The Rahim The Rahim = the womb Ar Rahmaan The status of the Rahim Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:‘Allaah created the universe, and when He had finished, kinship (al-rahm) stood up and said, “This is the standing up of one who seeks Your protection from being cut off.” Allaah said, “Yes, would it please you if I were to take care of those who take care of you and cut off those who cut you off?” It said, “Of course.” Allaah said, “Then your prayer in granted.” The curse of Allah ‘Would you then, if you were given the authority, do mischief in the land, and sever your ties of kinship? Such are they whom Allah has cursed, so that He has made them deaf and blinded their sight. Do they not then think deeply in the Quran, or are their hearts locked up (from understanding it)?’ Narrated by al-Bukhari, 5987; Muslim, 2554 What does keeping family ties mean? The Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when he said: “The one who maintains a relationship with his relatives only because they maintain a relationship with him is not truly upholding the ties of kinship. The one who truly upholds those ties is the one who does so even if they break off the relationship.” Reward The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever would like his rizq (provision) to be increased and his life to be extended, should uphold the ties of kinship.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 5986 and Muslim, 2557) Parents "And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word." Surah Al Israa “Say, “Come, I will recite what your Lord has prohibited to you. [He commands] that you not associate anything with Him, and to parents, excellence, and do not kill your children out of poverty; We will provide for you and them." Surah Al An’aam "And do not approach immoralities – what is apparent of them and what is concealed. And do not kill the soul which Allah has forbidden [to be killed] except by [legal] right. This has He instructed you that you may use reason.” Surah Al An’aam “There is no obedience if it involves disobedience towards the Creator. Obedience is only with regard to that which is right and proper.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (6380) and Muslim 91840) And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination. Surah Luqman But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with...