Where Empathy and Compassion Meets TransgressionsLife is full of opportunities to condemn others for what we experience as transgressions. How can we infuse more compassion and kindness into our lives? The kind of kindness, forgiveness, thoughtfulness and compassion we offer children. I have noticed there can be a major discrepancy in the way we offer children larger boundaries to flounder in error with impunity. Why do we stymie these conditions for adults? It is erroneous to assume the maturation process has yielded an individual skilled at taking into consideration the needs of others and navigating in manner that makes the most optimal sense.Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness. “To know all is to forgive all.” Dale CarnegieRecently, the past six years of my life have been filled with many of these opportunities and to say I have skillfully navigated them is a poor assertion. I have struggled immensely with establishing healthy boundaries. All suffer in some manner, some greater, more extant or overt. Do the suffering not require love and care too? It is not an easy choice to care for the suffering. It is easier to discard and extricate from these types of interactions. But I ask who is perfect? Who does not suffer and who does not deserve love? To properly love and support others requires immense resolute and counseling. If the correct supports are not in place they cause many mirco traumas that aggregate into a larger trauma. A journey towards your freedom from suffer might arrive from the liberation of responding to others negatively because of their suffering and doing the following, asking questions, not condemning and offering support. As with any practice there is no final destination and it is ongoing. It is filled with many mistakes and failures one of life's greatest teacher.Who is the we in the offering the love and tenderness children? There are many “we’s” who do not offer that to children. At what point to we paralyze and enable children by allowing them to mistreat others? How does the proper consequences happen? When is the loving response compassionate punishment or consequences?Darlene Zimmerman | #metanoiahealingartshttps://www.facebook.com/metanoiahealingarts/https://www.facebook.com/darlene.zimmhttps://www.instagram.com/metanoiahealingarts/