Mom and Dad Are Fighting | Slate's parenting show
Mom and Dad Are Fighting | Slate's parenting show
Slate Podcasts
Jamilah Lemieux, Dan Kois, and Elizabeth Newcamp share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.
No Ma'am Edition
On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Dan debate if it’s OK to teach your child to use gendered titles of respect, like sir and ma’am. Then they answer a mother who seems to do the lionshare of housework. Now her husband wants to seize an opportunity to be a stay-at-home father and she’s worried she will no longer be as valuable to the family.  In Slate Plus: What to do if you’re the rebel and your kid is the one who loves rules. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Dan recommends going to a different city—sans kids—and taking a walk with a friend.  Jamilah recommends Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good by Adrienne Maree Brown. Elizabeth recommends Niksen: Embracing the Dutch Art of Doing Nothing by Olga Mecking.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 14
52 min
DIY Sex Talk Edition
On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Dan answer a question from a family where one parent feels that giving the sex talk to a tween violates the child’s privacy. Then they’ll debate what to do about a husband who regresses into a surly teenager when his parents are around.  In Slate Plus: The parenting story of the weekend: Bean Dad. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends the 1000 Hours Outside printable. There is also a daily tracker available.  Dan recommends World of Snacks. Jamilah recommends Healthy Roots Dolls. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 7
50 min
Good Riddance 2020 Edition
On this week’s episode: Our favorite Plus segments of 2020. We’ve got some funny stories about odes to neighborhood racoons and barfing kids. We’ve got therapeutic screams into the void. We also have important segments on colorism, racism, and equity and how the pandemic is impacting the adoption system.  If you like what you hear on the show, sign up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. In Slate Plus: We have a bonus behind-the-scenes clip of Jamilah trying to determine how devastated Dan will be about Eddie Van Halen passing.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Tune in to The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show hosted by Jamilah. Watch it on Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT.    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 31, 2020
1 hr 7 min
Holiday Hullabaloo Edition
On this week’s episode: We gathered all of the Mom and Dad are Fighting hosts, kids, and partners around the mic for a holiday party extravaganza. It’s an abundance of chaos and cheer to make up for all of the canceled holiday parties this year. Up first is Triumphs and Fails with a twist. Then the kids and partners answer listener questions about them. Followed by a super silly round of everyone’s favorite—Would You Rather.  In Slate Plus: Everyone is revealing the holiday traditions that they can’t live without. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Alia recommends an adult paint by numbers kit. Lyra recommends playing Broken Picturephone. Harper recommends Hello Curls Curl Definer Spray and an Erin Condren academic planner. Naima recommends watching Speechless, which aired from 2016-2019 and is now streaming on Hulu.   Jeff recommends a Quadrilla Marble Run.  Henry recommends Purrble. A stuffed animal that teaches kids how to calm down.  Oliver recommends tote-a-fort.  Teddy recommends the Radish cooking box for kids.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Tune in to The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show hosted by Jamilah. Watch it on Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT.    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 24, 2020
43 min
I Want Better Grandparents Edition
On this week’s episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Dan answer a question about a little girl who wishes her Memaw and Pepaw would be better grandparents. They also debate what to do when a beloved stuffed animal gets lost and your kid is heartbroken.  In Slate Plus: Slate’s Sam Adams joins to talk about kids texting, emailing and finding their written voice. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Dan recommends installing a wireless mesh network. Jamilah recommends Trader Joe's Sipping Chocolate. Elizabeth recommends the December Following Directions printable from Peanut Butter Fish Lessons.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Tune in to The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show hosted by Jamilah. Watch it on Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT.    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 17, 2020
36 min
Cordially Uninvited Edition
On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Dan weigh in on whether you are a jerk for uninviting a family from your pod’s holiday plans. Should you follow invitation etiquette during a pandemic? Then they debate how to handle a parent giving a kid a book that might be too mature. Is it too late to take the book back? Or should you prepare to explain the mature content?  In Slate Plus: The hosts reveal the worst gifts they’ve ever given and received. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Dan recommends A Map to the Sun by Sloane Leong. Elizabeth recommends USPS Operation Santa.  Jamilah recommends Black Kids Adventures and Black Adventure Crew, which you should also follow on Instagram.  Games Galore:  Sommify Pandemic Root Rummikub The Floor is Lava  Yogarrr! Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Tune in to The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show hosted by Jamilah. Watch it on Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT.    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 10, 2020
46 min
Spoiling Santa Edition
On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a question about a kid who was told Santa wasn’t real. Now she is basing her continued belief on whether or not she gets a horse for Christmas. They also answer a question from a sister who is worried about her younger brother’s slacking in school.  In Slate Plus: How are Santas adapting? Is it time to retire the tradition of sitting on Santa’s lap? Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Jamilah recommends Eczema Honey products. Elizabeth recommends Mail Order Mystery. Dan recommends “Christmas Wrapping” by the Waitresses and “Christmas on Riverside Drive” by August Darnell.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Tune in to The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show hosted by Jamilah. Catch it via Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT.    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Dec 3, 2020
49 min
Thankful In Spite of Everything Edition
On this week’s episode: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth gather around the virtual Thanksgiving table to share the major and minor things that got them through this wild year. They also answer a listener question from a mom nervous about changes to her kids’ education as they move across the country.  In Slate Plus: Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth duke it out over the best and worst Thanksgiving foods. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Elizabeth recommends using Native-Land.ca to learn about Indigenous lands. If you’d like to learn about land you are on, you can also text your city and state *City, state” 1-907-312-5085 or to LandAcknowledgement on Facebook Messenger. Elizabeth also recommends following sitbymyfire on Instagram. She has a wonderful list of picture books for Native American Heritage Month.  Jamilah recommends peanut butter cups from Emerald Sky Edibles, if you are in a location where cannabis is legal.  Dan recommends watching Slings & Arrows. Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Tune in to The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show hosted by Jamilah. Catch it via Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT.    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 26, 2020
1 hr 1 min
My Child is Obsessed With a Squash Edition
On this week’s episode: Elizabeth and Jamilah debate how to have conversations with kids about body types. How do you model a healthy body image with your child? They also give advice on what to do when your child has a deep emotional attachment to a fruit. This might be a good time to talk about the life cycle of produce.  In Slate Plus: Elizabeth and Jamilah talk about two new released studies showing how the pandemic is making mothers more frustrated with their partners and kids. They even talk about some of the challenges they’ve faced while trying to balance working from home and taking care of their children. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Jamilah recommends getting your car wrapped at an auto body shop. Elizabeth recommends Fun-Schooling Journals from Thinking Tree Books. Bonus Links: There were two new studies released showing how the pandemic is making mothers more frustrated with their kids and partners: “Let’s Not Pretend It’s Fun”: How COVID-19-Related School and Childcare Closures are Damaging Mothers’ Well-Being. Podcast produced by Jasmine Ellis. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 19, 2020
54 min
You Will Have Fun and You Will Like It Edition
On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth, and Dan debate when it’s appropriate to celebrate a sibling’s pregnancy, especially if the road to conception has been tough. How can you delineate between excitement and celebration so the mom-to-be feels supported without feeling pressure to share the news with others, if that’s not something she’s comfortable with at this stage? They also advise a family who has realized—they don’t actually know how to have fun as a unit. It turns out, the key to family fun is that someone is probably always not thrilled. But, sometimes, you just gotta suck it up.  In Slate Plus: The hosts compete over who has allowed their kid to see the worst TV show. Slate Plus members get a bonus segment on MADAF each week, and no ads. Sign up now to listen and support our work. Recommendations: Dan recommends Flamer by Mike Curato. Elizabeth recommends Flipbelt’s running pants.  Jamilah recommends shopping for the holidays at Kido. Bonus Links: The Rise and Fall of Baby Einstein by Ruth Graham. Mike Birbiglia’s tweet that had a number of great replies recommending small or local businesses that people can support when shopping this upcoming holiday season.  Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes.  Tune in to The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show hosted by Jamilah. Catch it via Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT.    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 12, 2020
1 hr 1 min
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