Modern Masculinity
Modern Masculinity
Hector Santiesteban
Why Men Need Brotherhood (Not Just Self-Help) with Marc Azoulay
55 minutes Posted Jan 16, 2026 at 11:00 am.
Marc Azoulay, founder of Men's Therapy Online, breaks down why traditional therapy often misses the mark for men and what actually works. Marc shares his journey from impatient entrepreneur to new father, exploring how men can harness their drive without burning out. We dive deep into the millennial man's dilemma—raised to reject toxic masculinity but ending up overly feminized and lacking direction. Marc explains why community and men's groups are essential, how to master the art of knowing when to "pull your sword," and why the modern man must learn to navigate his inner world with the same skill he applies to external challenges. This episode is a blueprint for men seeking to integrate strength with emotional intelligence, responsibility with vulnerability, and power with purpose.Chapters:
- Meaning comes from responsibility and commitment
- The cardinal sin of impatience and becoming a new father
- Men and women are different but equal
- The invisible preventative work men do
- Inner demons: You can't outwork them, you have to face them
- The millennial man's identity crisis: Not our fathers, but who are we?
- Why having children forces you to become a man
- Responsibility isn't a burden—it's a gift that gives life meaning
- Vulnerability as a superpower: The soil doesn't lie
- Stoicism misunderstood: It's not suppression, it's seeing reality as it is
- When to pull your sword: Mastering the proper use of force
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Marc Azoulay, founder of Men's Therapy Online, breaks down why traditional therapy often misses the mark for men and what actually works. Marc shares his journey from impatient entrepreneur to new father, exploring how men can harness their drive without burning out. We dive deep into the millennial man's dilemma—raised to reject toxic masculinity but ending up overly feminized and lacking direction. Marc explains why community and men's groups are essential, how to master the art of knowing when to "pull your sword," and why the modern man must learn to navigate his inner world with the same skill he applies to external challenges. This episode is a blueprint for men seeking to integrate strength with emotional intelligence, responsibility with vulnerability, and power with purpose.Chapters:(00:00:00) - Meaning comes from responsibility and commitment(00:02:43) - The cardinal sin of impatience and becoming a new father(00:06:15) - Men and women are different but equal(00:09:30) - The invisible preventative work men do(00:13:42) - Inner demons: You can't outwork them, you have to face them(00:18:35) - The millennial man's identity crisis: Not our fathers, but who are we?(00:23:12) - Why having children forces you to become a man(00:28:45) - Responsibility isn't a burden—it's a gift that gives life meaning(00:35:17) - Vulnerability as a superpower: The soil doesn't lie(00:40:28) - Stoicism misunderstood: It's not suppression, it's seeing reality as it is(00:46:52) - When to pull your sword: Mastering the proper use of force(00:51:33) - Focus on your biggest weakness, not your strengthsLinks And Resources:Website: https://menstherapy.online/Marc Azoulay on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marcmazoulay/Hector Santiesteban on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hector-santiesteban-64326340/Hector Santiesteban on Twitter: https://twitter.com/hector_podcast?lang=enThanks so much for joining us this week. Want to subscribe to Modern Masculinity? Have some feedback you’d like to share? Connect with us on iTunes and leave us a review!