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Why You Keep Dating Toxic People (Therapist Explains) | Modern Dating WTF #9
47 minutes Posted Jul 20, 2025 at 5:24 pm.
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Why do we keep falling for the same toxic people? šŸ§ šŸ’”

In this episode of Modern Dating WTF, therapist Renee Cahill joins Rosanna and Mike to unpack the psychology behind dating disasters. From trauma bonding and childhood attachment styles to repeating old patterns and ignoring giant red flags, this is your ultimate reality check—and survival guide.

We cover:

  • Dating while separated (and why it’s a mess)

  • Why your ā€œgut feelingā€ matters more than excuses

  • Love languages vs. love bombing

  • The 4 attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized

  • Why consistency beats chemistry every time

  • How to build real, healthy relationships (yes, it’s still possible)

Renee also shares her top book picks for anyone who’s tired of dating broken people and wants to do the inner work.

šŸ“š Recommended Reads:

  • Fight Right by Julie Gottman

  • Attached by Amir Levine

  • Love Life by Matthew Hussey

  • How to Do the Work by Dr. Nicole LePera

šŸŽ§ Whether you're newly single, stuck in a toxic loop, or just fascinated by the dating chaos of 2025—this one's for you.