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In this episode, I sit down with relationships coach Sara Payne to talk about what to do when you're not on the same page with your spouse, whether that's religion, parenting, or money. Sara challenges the assumption that not being on the same page is even a problem, sharing the mind-blowing idea from Jennifer Finlayson-Fife that we're all in mixed-faith marriages. We discuss the fear of empty chairs in heaven, and Sara shares how trusting in a God who is always win-win changes everything. I get vulnerable about money dynamics in my own marriage and we dig into why hard conversations feel so charged. Sara's core advice is to shift your goal from getting your partner on your page to genuinely understanding them, use resentment as a window instead of something to hide, and remember you're on the same team. She also reframes repentance simply as changing your mind.Brynne’s Resources:✨Faith In Process Community: https://www.brynneerickson.com/waitlistFacebook: @Brynne Erickson - my public pagehttps://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61573316550355Instagram: @brynne_ericksonhttps://www.instagram.com/brynne_erickson/Threads: @brynne_ericksonhttps://www.threads.com/@brynne_erickson?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Sara Payne's Resources:Website: https://sarapayne.com/Instagram: @sarapaynecoachinghttps://www.instagram.com/sarapaynecoaching/📕 It Just Takes One: https://www.amazon.com/Just-Takes-One-Create-Relationships-ebook/dp/B0FBSB6YSC/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2Q4MJR3DLC23A&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.Rib63jK6JHhouBmMxZd_sEe39Tl5JTzd3RS_IYyxa287FhVRnd63TxLCvML6rhH_sOWT9SF53Lsytng_Ocipo5g2OemZUzkVCALxf8q0mucFuR3ta9jdtoqvoLSwV_-G0WktKtUmyq2s4JEpJfBrtXsu4Hw9S9OzTCK3FnYKptj0igcpEONYsRfHLj39nB0_4QAar9b4ksAoSp3kL3t3ODc2YXuvwZ-yEs9q_iinlsU.37QfdEFgyptG_o9ohuMSc2c9S-ZcYmhGMGjWaKR8jcY&dib_tag=se&keywords=it+just+takes+one&qid=1785879724&sprefix=it+just+takes+one%2Caps%2C222&sr=8-1Chapters:01:05 Navigating Differences in Relationships03:53 Understanding Mixed-Faith Marriages06:50 The Role of Faith and Beliefs in Relationships09:54 The Power of Love Over Fear12:53 Embracing Imperfection in Parenting15:52 The Challenge of Financial Discussions18:50 Finding Common Ground in Disagreements30:34 Understanding Each Other's Perspectives32:02 Navigating Financial Conversations35:10 Self-Awareness in Relationships36:41 Separating Personal Feelings from Partner's Stress39:23 Finding Common Ground42:21 The Importance of Vulnerability45:47 Win-Win Solutions in Relationships