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In this episode, I sit down with clinical psychologist Dr. Cameron Staley to talk about something rarely discussed openly: pornography, compulsive eating, gaming, and the behaviors we use to escape uncomfortable emotions. Dr. Staley shares his groundbreaking research showing pornography viewing does not activate the brain like substance addiction. The term addiction itself is not even a scientific diagnosis. Calling yourself an addict actually maintains the behavior over time by making it central to your identity. Instead, unwanted pornography viewing is a compulsion driven by shame and emotion avoidance, and the same is true for sugar, food, gaming, and scrolling. All behavior is purposeful. The question is what are you escaping? We discuss how sin is really disconnection from yourself, others, and God, and how repentance means turning back toward connection. Dr. Staley shares his self-directed ACT therapy program Life After Pornography and his book Confessions of an LDS Sex Researcher.Brynne’s Social:Facebook: @Brynne Erickson - my public pagehttps://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61573316550355Instagram: @brynne_ericksonhttps://www.instagram.com/brynne_erickson/Threads: @brynne_ericksonhttps://www.threads.com/@brynne_erickson?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Dr. Cameron Staley's Resources:Website: https://cameronstaley.com/TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mNGg5SMcyhIProgram: Life After Pornography (self-directed, 10 sessions of ACT therapy, under $100, 90%+ reduction in viewing) https://cameronstaley.com/programs/Book: Confessions of an LDS Sex Researcher - https://cameronstaley.com/2024-book-release/One-on-one counseling: Available virtually across the country - https://cameronstaley.com/programs/Chapters01:05 Introduction to the Conversation on Pornography and Sexuality04:09 Understanding the Role of Intent in Pornography Use06:45 Curiosity as a Tool for Self-Reflection09:48 Navigating Religious Beliefs and Pornography12:42 The Misconception of Addiction vs. Compulsion15:48 The Impact of Language on Identity and Behavior18:28 Reframing Sexuality and Agency21:25 The Importance of Education in Sexuality24:31 The Role of Emotions in Sexual Behavior27:37 Defining Buffers and Coping Mechanisms31:21 Understanding Our Relationship with Sugar and Compulsions36:20 Navigating Emotions and Their Physical Manifestations41:45 The Importance of Regulation and Connection47:34 Redefining Sin and Connection in Our Lives50:45 Resources for Overcoming Buffers and Addictions