Messy Family Podcast : Catholic conversations on marriage and family
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic conversations on marriage and family
Mike and Alicia Hernon : Catholic Marriage Parent and Family
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Parenting is not a clean-cut, simple process for those who like to follow the rules. Family life is messy and unpredictable, but it is the greatest adventure you will ever have. We are Mike and Alicia Hernon, parents of 10 children ranging from 6 to 23 and we would like to invite you into some of the conversations we have had with each other about marriage, parenting, and Catholic family life. Our hope is that our conversation sparks a dialogue between you and your spouse that leads to greater unity and intentional Christian parenting in your home. Listen in to our podcast and start the conversation as we seek to lead our families to heaven. Visit us at for resources, guides, links and show notes.
MFP 141 : Honest Talk about Physical Intimacy:  An interview with the founders of Smartloving, Byron and Francine Pirola
The sexual relationship you have with your spouse is the most intimate relationship you will ever have, but it certainly can be complicated! In this podcast, we have a conversation with Byron and Francine Pirola, founders of Smartloving and international speakers and teachers. Our conversation about physical intimacy between spouses is honest, frank, and explicit, so please listen to this podcast in privacy. But we do believe this information is desperately needed by couples, so we have created a summary and download for you to use after listening to the podcast to create a conversation with your spouse. Please listen in, use this topic as a conversation starter with your spouse, and share with others! Referenced: Free Conversation Starter on Physical Intimacy: Webinar with Byron and Francine Pirola: Sign up for our virtual date night with Scott & Kimberly Hahn:
Oct 2
1 hr 13 min
MFP 140 :  Dealing with Failure
All parents will fail. How do we know this? Because we are all imperfect! Many parents feel like failures when grieving over their children’s poor decisions or loss of faith. Or they look at themselves in the mirror and don’t like who they have become. How we define failure and how we deal with it will either paralyze us or call us on to greater holiness and virtue. Recognizing how we have failed our children, and even how our own parents have failed us, is how we learn and grow. In this podcast we define the difference between shame and guilt (one is good and the other bad!), the importance of recognizing what we can control and what we cannot, and the centrality of forgiveness in our relationships with our children, no matter what their age. In addition to some hard truths, this podcast gives hope to every parent who wants to improve themselves through extreme ownership and humility. Referenced: Virtual date night with Scott and Kimberly Hahn in October Covenant Eyes to protect your family - Catholic Answers article: Sign up for one minute weekly encouragement:
Sep 23
52 min
MFP 139 : The Honor of Accompanying a Soul to Eternity
This past summer our family lost a beloved uncle, brother-in-law, and husband. Alicia’s uncle passed into eternity at home with his wife, and Alicia and her sister Maria were privileged to be present for his death. Death is a profound experience and one that we should all think about more. Many of us are afraid to confront the thought of death though it is (obviously!) a part of everyone’s life. Our culture influences us more than we realize and we can get lulled into thinking this world is all there is. But this world is not our home! In this podcast, we share the story of walking with them through this difficult experience, but also we share our reflections and the lessons that we have learned from them. Referenced: Virtual date night with Scott and Kimberly Hahn MP 022 : Dealing with Loss Catholic Mom’s Summit
Sep 10
58 min
MFP 138 : Non-practicing Spouses, Mouthy Teens, and Keeping Kids Catholic
In this podcast we continue to answer some very important listener questions about family life. Many listeners have spouses who don’t share their faith life and forging unity when that is the case can be tricky. We came up with some creative ideas on how to love your spouse more! Other questions included disciplining pre-teens and teens and as well as forming their hearts. Our Discipline Guide is a good place to start for this, but we expand on some of the ideas found there and apply them to our Questioner’s specific situation. If you find our answers helpful, share the podcast, subscribe, and tell others about us. And certainly feel free to send us more of YOUR questions as well! Referenced: Join our email list to hear about the virtual date night Messy Family Guide to Discipline - MFP 131 : The Power of “NO” - MP 067 : Evangelizing Your Kids -
Aug 28
1 hr 5 min
MFP 137 : Toxic Relationships, Social Media, and Talking to Kids about Sex
Listeners send us questions all the time and we try to answer them as best we can via email. Some of these questions are really great because they bring up subjects that many people struggle with. In this podcast we tackle some questions about in-laws, and we answer from the perspective of a married couple but also from being a mother and father-in-law ourselves! We also give our advice on navigating the minefield of politics as well as social media. Though we have a podcast on preparing tweens for adolescence, we answer a question about that as well. Listen in and if you have more questions, email us. Maybe you’ll be featured on the next episode of listener questions! Referenced: Join our email list to hear about the virtual date night MP 005 : Preparing your Tween (and yourself!) for Adolescence Maidens by His Design - Love Ed program from St. Benedict Press -
Aug 26
49 min
MFP 136 : Rituals and connection – Family Culture
Rituals are an essential part of creating connections with other people, whether that is our spouse, our children, our extended family, our local community, and even our nation. Rituals connect how we act with what we believe - communicate values can be contrasted with “routines” that create order and address merely physical needs. Both are important but on different levels. When routines are disrupted, its a hassle. When rituals are disrupted, the family cohesiveness is threatened. When something is an obligation only with no emotional/heart connection, then the value of the ritual is lessened. Play and Pray Challenge for your family: Support our ministry and get the fun kit for your family:
Jul 24
43 min
MFP 135 : Your Family’s Unique Calling
Looking at the turmoil we are experiencing within our culture, we are becoming more and more convinced that we, Catholic families, have the answer that people are looking for.  People are searching for purpose, belonging and identity. How do we “share” our family with the world? Well, first we need to make sure we have our own house in order.  Examine your family culture, shore up the weak areas, and be intentional about the messages you are sending.  The motivation to have a vibrant family culture is so you can take it to the next level and act in the world according to the unique giftedness that your family has been given.  We are not all called to serve in the same way -- we are all different!  When every family discovers their unique giftedness and then uses those gifts to respond to the call that God has put upon their hearts, God can establish His reign in the world.  Listen in to get motivated and learn how to discern the call that God has given to you.   Podcast references:  Build Your Family Culture, Elements of a Family Culture, Growing a Family Culture Download Play and Pray Challenge Sticker and Mass for your family: Support our ministry and get the fun kit for your family:
Jul 3
54 min
MFP 134 : Talking to your kids about Racism, Riots, and Real Reparation
Many of us are looking at the events of these days with despair, sadness, and even anger.  It is hard to witness division and hatred in our world and to see the suffering of those who are caught in its crossfire.  We want to respond but many of us don’t know how to.  This is such a huge problem with far-reaching consequences and deeply rooted origins.  Parents, do not allow the devil to use that which is far off to distract you from what is near!  The greatest influence you can have is within your own home.  Parents need to proactively discuss these issues with their children in order to form them.  This is YOUR job and no one else’s.  Listen in as we share our own experience and give tips on how to address these topics with your children.   Get free Play and Pray Challenge kit: Become a Member:
Jun 12
45 min
MFP133 :  The Play + Pray Challenge
The Play and Pray Challenge is a way for us to spread the kingdom of Jesus Christ into every home in a fun, interactive way. We have learned that if you are going to PRAY with your family, you need to PLAY with them! This June from the 12th to the 21st, we are challenging families to do three things: Organize and execute an amazing FAMILY DAY, plan and go on a DATE NIGHT, and proclaim Jesus Christ as the KING OF THE HOME by placing the image of the Sacred Heart in their house and “enthroning” Him as King. We want to make this a fun and rewarding experience for families, so we have created some resources to help you out. Go to our website to get our Play and Pray Challenge Kit. We want this challenge to go viral, so spread the word to get other families to do it too! Watch the video and sign up for the Play and Pray Challenge: Join the waiting list for new member site: Related podcast episode:
May 28
49 min
MFP 132 : Learning to Trust
Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship. When we trust our spouse we can stand before them, just as we are, knowing that we will be accepted. Full knowledge with full acceptance. That’s the goal, but the road to building trust is not easy for most of us, because we are sinful people dealing with our own shame. As we work on our relationship with our spouse and with the Lord, we are creating a bond that helps us work together as a team and rest in the knowledge that He will be with us no matter what happens. The reason I know “everything is going to be ok” is because I trust that God is in control. Join messy family member waiting list:
May 12
53 min
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