Mentality Matters

This week's Episode is a continuation of a conversation I had with Taylor Pilkington in our last Episode. The first part of this Episode picks up right where we left off. I recommend you listen to Part 1 first, but that's your call. Thanks for listening! Follow us on Instagram @mentality_matters_podcastAppreciate you rating us on your favorite streaming service and sharing with your friends and family.Much Love!

For this first of two episodes with this guest, I welcome Taylor Pilkington. Taylor is the Founder, Owner and Operator of Soccer Genome; a skills training facility located in Raleigh North Carolina. SG was established in 2011 with the philanthropic Genome Foundation which is a 501c3 getting up and running in 2015. And while many of you might be thinking that Taylor is just another soccer head and this was his obvious life path… you’d be partial right. While he is definitely passionate about the sport; it’s the varied examples of leadership and where they came from that make Taylor’s story unique. His philosophies … blended. Whether we’re talking about his deep rooted passion for the people he coaches and employs, the ever changing craft and art to coaching or his business philosophies that show an experience and interest similar to many C-Suite execs that I’ve dealt with over the years… Taylor’s passion, grit and mentality are full on and I can’t wait for you all to hear us chop it up. Air pods – Check. Favorite Beverage – Check. Excited to get down with Mentality Matters – Double Check. I hope you enjoy… https://www.soccergenome.com/Episode 1 of 2 Details:0:00 - Intro3:00 - Being Emotionally Ready to Lead6:00 - Reps Matter11:00 - Accepting Criticism as a Coach15:00 - Fun versus Growth18:00 - Going Back to White Belt24:00 - Mentor Diversity & The Skippy Effect32:00 - Tolkien Effect38:00 - Show Up When it Hurts42:00 - Lasso Effect43:00 - Mr. Miyagi Effect54:00 - Hard Places Need Hard Leaders1:03 - Pride in the Process1:11 - Carnegie EffectPart 2 of this Episode will be released on 12/4/2023...Thanks for listening! Follow us on Instagram @mentality_matters_podcastAppreciate you rating us on your favorite streaming service and sharing with your friends and family.Much Love!

This week I’m joined by Susan White – a licensed and trained mental health professional who found exercise and running as a way to search out the hard things. But why? Why search out the hard? We talk about it. And we also dig into why it's vital that we allow our children to fail during our watch. She gives several “Ah-Ha” moments that I can’t wait for you to chew on. Like why the system surrounding young people matters and how a shift in our mentality about our own strength resiliency  and post traumatic growth can wildly affect how we view ourselves and how we can start to run our lives. I hope you enjoy listening  to this episode as much as I did. If so, share it, like it and give Mentality Matters a follow on your favorite streaming service and our Instagram page at Mentality _ Matters _ Podcast. So fill up you favorite mug. Enjoy the conversation. And much love! Episode Details - 0:00 - Intro2:00 - Damn. There She Goes4:00 - Social Work as a Calling7:00 - Risk Factors of Troubled Youth and Why Your Systems Matter14:00 - Consistency Matters21:30 - Inherent Strengths23:30 - Emotional  Boys26:30 - Unfair Demand on Teenagers Time/Attention29:00 - Fitness Journey36:00 - The 3 Goals - Stretch/Achievable/Attainable38:00 - Power of an Accountable Mentality41:00 - Welcome to the Thunder Dome43:00 - The Boston49:00 - 50 at 50 in the Appalachians53:00 - It's Vital to Fail1:00 - Post Traumatic Growth1:08 - Wearing the Criticism1:10 - Emperor Moth1:11 - Man in the ArenaThanks for listening! Follow us on Instagram @mentality_matters_podcastAppreciate you rating us on your favorite streaming service and sharing with your friends and family.Much Love!

Season 1 - Episode 6For this week’s episode I was able to sit down with Mrs. Bonnie Mwanda who I have found to be a natural and exceptional leader. She is continually expanding and enriching the lives of the young people and peers that she interacts with on a daily basis by placing emphasis on building authentic relationships while acknowledging and tearing down the fences that are holding people back from achieving their true success. Finding their true identity. All because 16 year old Bonnie felt stifled and dismayed by the system around her. Bonnie’s is a story of paying it forward in a society that desperately needs the codification of equity while paying homage to a teenage girl that couldn’t comprehend the lack of cultural representation she faced in the public school system. Episode Contents - 0:00 - Intro to Doc Mwanda3:00 - Who is Bonnie?6:30 - Honoring What 16 Year-Old Bonnie Needed12:30 - Culture Based on Mental & Physical Safety18:30 - What It Takes to Teach21:00 - The Focus Group Philosophy26:00 - How to Get Buy-In30:00 - Being Visible is Vital31:00 - Leaders are HYPE People37:00 - Relationships Matter51:00 - Staying Consistent with Young People56:00 - Overcoming Barriers1:00 - Helping Kids Dream Big1:10 - What is Equity1:16 - Stand On It1:24 - "I'm That Girl" - Beyonce'Thanks for listening! Follow us on Instagram @mentality_matters_podcastAppreciate you rating us on your favorite streaming service and sharing with your friends and family.Much Love!

Season 1 - Episode 5For this episode, I sat down with a former player of mine that battled the circumstances life threw at him and has since earned his Juris Doctorate from Campbell Law School with a Masters in Trust and Wealth Management, mentors youth as a volunteer coach, is raising a family with his wife Ashley. His is a story about where he’s from and why that matters. His is also a story about breaking a familial generational curse that saw him escaping substance abuse, working a third shift job, living out of his car or on the couches of friends … all while attending high school. So if you’re looking for an example on what the power of self belief and deciding to just keep going, this is it. Episode Details0:00 - Intro3:00 - Where I'm From and Why It Matters6:00 - Building on Sand10:00 - Deciding to Decide13:00 - Team 1st While Life Sucked17:30 - Setting Audacious Goals23:00 - Fatherly Connections29:00 - Uncommon Amongst the Uncommon31:00 - Why Applaud the Average?35:00 - Climbing Onto the Boat45:00 - Men Supporting Men47:00 - Lessons for a 12 Year Old50:00 - Power of Self-Belief52:00 - Growing in Gravel55:00 - Your Circle Matters58:00 - Just Keep GoingThanks for listening! Follow us on Instagram @mentality_matters_podcastAppreciate you rating us on your favorite streaming service and sharing with your friends and family.Much Love!

Bonus Content -In this episode I talk about the importance of choosing the people in your tribe and why that matters. Are you a Blue Crab? Are you a builder? Do you inspire the people around you? Do they inspire you?Thanks for listening! Follow us on Instagram @mentality_matters_podcastAppreciate you rating us on your favorite streaming service and sharing with your friends and family.Much Love!

This week, Kam and I dive into  living with an uber competitive mentality and juggling being a great teammate to her husband and kids; all while bucking the perceived traditional perception of being a woman and a mom. https://raleighrugby.org/venom/https://www.instagram.com/raleighrugbyclub/Episode Notes:0:00 - Intro3:00 - Competition rooted in Cheer9:30 - Calm in the Chaos10:45 - Timing and Trust IS Team14:30 - Birth and Growth of a Competitor18:00 - Finding Competition as we Age19:45 - Competitors Speak a Foreign Language22:30 - Partners and the Fragile Male Ego25:20 - Being a Great Teammate32:15 - Fog of War and the Medieval Dance of Rugby36:15 - Leading Adults of a Younger Generation 40:30 - Failing Forward47:00 - Mom's are Bad Ass Too53:00 - Warrior Women1:04.0 - Lessons of the Father1:14.0 - ICU Battles1:20.0 - How to Coach KidsThanks for listening! Follow us on Instagram @mentality_matters_podcastAppreciate you rating us on your favorite streaming service and sharing with your friends and family.Much Love!

For this week's Bonus Content I wanted to discuss the role of leaders when developing a team culture based on honest truth that puts the growth of the teammate in their hands because of uncomfortable conversations ~or~ when leaders decide to "dangle the carrot" and avoid conflict because of the peace it falsely brings. How do we foster a team culture that's not afraid of conflict and that's based on truth and growth? Love your athletes enough to trust them with the truth.Thanks for listening! Follow us on Instagram @mentality_matters_podcastAppreciate you rating us on your favorite streaming service and sharing with your friends and family.Much Love!

I was able to steal some time from my good friend, Fabrice Shema, and I picked his brain on how he goes about a leadership and business model that revolves around focusing on consistent incremental growth and using his platform and life as a servant leader. I think you'll love listening as much as I love our conversations. You can find Coach Fab and One Soccer Academy at the following links:https://www.onesocceracademy.com/https://www.instagram.com/one_soccer_academy/In this episode:0:00 - Intro to Coach Fab2:30 - 1% Growth Increments4:00 - "Juggling" your way to improvement7:30 - Show the growth to grow the kid9:45 - Can you coach hard in a soft society?10:15 - From Rwanda to Louisville16:00 - For Club and CoachesSeeing the power of hard work and love19:40 - ALL coaches are Life Coaches21:00 - Person over Player24:00 - Why I coach25:45 - Leading with Passion and a Faith Driven Life31:00 - How Fab gets paid34:00 - What holds people back from their full potential?36:43 - For something new to grow...something old must go43:00 - Redirecting Young Leaders - Watering the Garden45:45 - Coaches Coach -- Parents Love49:00 - The Non-Negotiables to successThanks for listening! Follow us on Instagram @mentality_matters_podcastAppreciate you rating us on your favorite streaming service and sharing with your friends and family.Much Love!

For this Bonus Content Episode I dive into what I consider to be a non-negotiable when pyramiding a successful life -- your Attitude & Effort! Controlling what you can control and the often hardest thing to do ... calling yourself out for choices YOU make. I hope you enjoy!Thanks for listening! Follow us on Instagram @mentality_matters_podcastAppreciate you rating us on your favorite streaming service and sharing with your friends and family.Much Love!