Do you know what “emotionally unavailable” actually means?Do you know why it’s so destructive to intimacy – and a man’s life, in general? Do you know how easy it is for a man to say – even believe! – he’s both feet into a relationship with only one foot actually in?If you’ve never heard of Jayson Gaddis, it’s only because you’ve never thought to actually learn how intimate relationships can work. As my own relationship coaching practice began to take off a few years ago, people started telling me about this guy named Jayson Gaddis, that I needed to look into him. When I began my relationship with my fiance, herself a marriage and family therapist, she would mention his name and his podcast, the Smart Couple, as a great resource with practical tools for couples. Jayson’s name followed me like my shadow. And with good reason. Although we’ve never met in person, I decided to invite Jayson onto “Men, This Way” when I learned he was teaching relationship courses to high school students. I mean, in addition to his Relationship School, his own podcast, his therapy and coaching practice,  teaching relationship skills to high school students struck me as both incredibly important – surely more so than trigonometry or chemistry, since we ALL do relationships but so few of us are astrophysicists or whatever the hell chemistry majors do – but it also struck me as potentially futile, because at that age, aren’t we far more influenced by what we SEE and EXPERIENCE at home and in the world around us than by what someone teaches us in a classroom for a few hours? Still, Jayson’s been doing this work for a while, he’s successfully married – by which I don’t just mean still together with his wife, but thriving in relationship with her – and he’s got two kids. And he’s brutally honest about how actually screwing up past relationships has helped shape him as a powerful healer and leader in this space, for both men and women. So if there’s anyone who’s going to teach teenagers how to do relationship well? It’s Jayson Gaddis.In this conversation, Jayson shares a surprising detail about that work, but more so we explore emotional unavailability, as well as practices for men to be more self-aware so we can be more emotionally present. And definitely stay tuned for Jayson’s 5 Key Takeaway’s at the end of this episode of “Men, This Way” … Alright … Let’s dive …SHOW NOTESYour past relationship pain will follow you unless you deal with itDr John D. Martini polymath teacher on money, relationships, fulfillment, and moreMovie: Free Solo;Book: “Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain” by Daniel J. Siegel;Book: “Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind” by Yuval Noah HarariPodcast: How I Built This with Guy RazFamily trip to Vancouver