The wonderful spiritual writer Joan Chittister advises, "It’s when we won’t let go of a thing that we are defeated by it. "Let me go . . . ,' says the Spirit of God. And Jacob answers, 'I will not let you go until you bless me.' And therein lies the secret of winning all the struggles of our lives. We must learn to let go of them so that we can come to the blessings hidden within them."