Based on my work with clients these are the top tips I have for working with a lawyer in family mediation, to ensure you get the most out of this relationship:

• get recommendations from friends as to good experiences
• meet with lawyers to make sure you are comfortable with them and the team
• ensure that you are working with an experienced family lawyer and not just someone who also does family work
• understand that no lawyer will give you a guarantee
• be prepared to ask lawyers for a range of outcomes - good day for you in court / bad day for you in court
• be the client! don't forget the lawyer works for you.  
• be conscious - make sure that you are making conscious decisions about how / when to rely on the lawyers
• be transparent with your lawyers so they can give you the most relevant advice
• be flexible - consider bringing in the solicitors to a mediation if helpful
• and most importantly
• be clear about your priorities with your lawyer - what do you most need (not want) to achieve so they can target their advice