Brandi and Lawrence aren't a couple. He's a gay man, she's a lesbian, and they were best friends first, until they decided, in their twenties, to build a family together on purpose, with a legal parental agreement in place before they ever tried to conceive.They walk Shan through what that intentionality actually looked like. But underneath the logistics is the part nobody warned either of them about, the isolation Lawrence carried as the only man in his friend group building a family this way, and the year their living situation and their respective romantic relationships pulled the friendship apart so hard that Brandi had to tell Lawrence something she still calls one of the biggest heartbreaks of her life: that she could stay his co-parent, but she couldn't stay his friend.____________Ready to reach your goals? Visit https://www.forhers.com/shan to get personalized, affordable care that gets you.Right now, our listeners get an additional 15% off any MasterClass annual membership at https://www.masterclass.com/loversFollow Parental AgreementResource → https://u42luyhpb6f.typeform.com/agreementWebsite → http://theparentalagreement.com/Follow LawrenceInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/lawrenceccarroll/ Majestic Art Gallery → https://majesticartgallery.org/ Donate to LA Pride → https://lapride.org/donate-to-la-pride/Follow BrandiInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/brandijandrews/?hl=enYouth Dealer, skincare for melanated people → https://www.instagram.com/youthdealerco/?hl=enWant more Lover?Receive my Lovers Letter → http://loversbyshan.com/newsletterJoin the Lovers Community → https://www.loversbyshan.com/communityExplore quizzes and worksheets → http://loversbyshan.com/quizzesLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices