Love Hacks
Love Hacks
Mikala Louis & Renee Harpe
They don't won't to leave... But they don't know how not to run
47 minutes Posted Apr 20, 2026 at 2:16 pm.
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When your partner says “I’m leaving” in the middle of a fight, it doesn’t just sound like words — it feels like abandonment.


In this episode, we break down what’s really happening beneath that reaction.


This isn’t always about wanting to end the relationship. For many people, the urge to leave comes from deeper patterns: fear of abandonment, avoidant attachment, emotional overwhelm, or a learned response that says “conflict = danger.”


Understanding this changes everything.


Because what feels like rejection is often a defense — someone trying to escape emotions they don’t know how to handle.


But here’s the key: understanding their pattern doesn’t mean accepting everything.


This episode helps you:


* understand the psychology behind why your partner threatens to leave

* stop personalizing their reaction as “they don’t care”

* recognize the pursue–withdraw cycle happening between you

* and learn how to stay grounded without losing yourself


Because the goal isn’t to fix them or chase them…


It’s to understand what’s happening — and choose how you show up without breaking yourself in the process.


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