Why is it so hard to ask for help? Even when people are willing to give it?In this episode, we sit with the hidden fear underneath self-reliance: What if having needs makes me a burden?We talk about the difference between healthy independence and rigid self-reliance, why being helped can feel strangely unsafe, and how many of us learned to be capable, low-maintenance, and strong long before we learned how to receive.This is a conversation about asking for help, receiving love, resentment, perfectionism, family culture, prayer, and the third way between isolated self-reliance and helpless dependence.Connect with Us:<ul><li>Learn more about Third Way Mentorship: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="http://adrianandshae.com" target="_blank">adrianandshae.com</a></li><li>Send us a note: <a rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="mailto:hello@adrianandshae.com" target="_blank">hello@adrianandshae.com</a></li><li>Follow us on social: @adrianandshae</li></ul>

Family is complicated. Even the people we love most can hurt us... and we can hurt them. Sometimes it feels like the only way to protect yourself is to either run away from it all — or stuff everything down and pretend you’re fine.We get it. Because we’ve lived it.We’re Shae and Adrian Misiak — Catholic mentors and mental health professionals — doing the hard and beautiful work of healing family wounds while raising a family of our own.If you’ve ever felt stuck between cutting off a parent to survive,or staying quiet to keep the peace… we’re here to tell you: there’s another way.And this podcast explores what that actually looks like.Here are some of the themes you’ll hear us talk about:the messy reality of family lifenavigating difficult relationships with integrityforgiveness that doesn’t ask you to forget the pastgrief that doesn’t require you to shut down lovewhere and how God is working in the places that feel most brokenThese episodes will meet you where you are and walk with you toward where God is inviting you to go.You'll find honest conversations about becoming whole in real time, as we learn to love with both courage and compassion.If you’re trying to build a healthier family than the one you came from,or if you simply want to stop carrying all of this alone…put us in your earbuds and listen along.Walk with us as we explore what it takes to live the Third Way —where joy is found, right alongside the hard and holy work of healing.