Often in my counselling room I’ll come across people saying the exact same thing: that they wish they’d seen the toxic truth of their partner earlier, before investing their time, emotions and energy into a relationship with them. I’m always interested to listen to these kinds of stories. Every story is complex, and they’ve been on an emotional rollercoaster, but there’s always a common thread between these stories that emerges: the evidence of their partner’s toxic behaviour was there from the beginning, they just didn’t see it. Today I'd like to explore these behaviours with you.