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"Building The Hearth - Creating Belonging" with Jeff and Katherine Wise Episode 72 of the Lift+Love podcast
50 minutes Posted Jun 10, 2026 at 7:20 pm.
Meet the Wises
Son Comes Out
Bishop and Ward Impact
Mom Learns Later
Stress and Secrecy
Late Night Questions
Context and Denial
Spiritual Confirmation
Blessing and Expansion
Don’t Hide Who You Are
Coming Out Publicly
Telling the Ward
Ward Comes Together
Telling the Kids
Lovingest Support
From Secret to Fireside
Launching The Hearth
Policy Shockwaves 2015
Trans Policy Echoes
Why We Stay
Worth the Work
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"Building The Hearth - Creating Belonging" with Jeff and Katherine Wise - Episode 72 of the Lift+Love podcast
 
Episode hosts Allison Dayton and Darice Auston interview Katherine and Jeff Wise about their son Talmage coming out as gay in February 2013 while Jeff was serving as an LDS bishop. They describe early mistakes, including Jeff delaying telling Katherine due to multiple family crises, and Katherine’s immediate spiritual experience confirming God’s love for Talmage. The Wises chose to tell family, friends, and their ward openly rather than keep it secret, and received supportive responses. After Jeff attended a Los Altos fireside featuring Bob Rees and Mitch Mayne, they hosted their own fireside in March 2015, which led to creating a monthly gathering called The Hearth. They discuss how the November 2015 exclusion policy drove many young gay people away despite supportive local leadership, and why they continue participating in church to advocate for marginalized people.
 
 
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