When Alecia Hill met her late husband, she believed she had met the man of her dreams. After a few passionate years of dating, the pair married. A few months into the marriage, however, Hill’s husband lost his libido and the passion vanished. For the remainder of her marriage, the couple did not have sex.

Nonetheless, Hill stayed in the marriage. The union lasted 12 years, ending not in divorce but, rather, with the passing of Hill’s husband. Today, Hill calls her marriage successful and fulfilling, and will tell listeners: * She first reacted to her husband’s lack of sexual interest by searching for a paramour who didn’t exist.

* Hill felt the urge to look outside her marriage for sexual satisfaction but resisted the temptation.

* Pride can get in the way of a couple talking about the lack of sexual intimacy. Hill’s husband was proud, and more than five years passed before he was willing to talk about the issue.

* Communication is key to making such marriages work.

* Another key is to find a common goal that a couple can work together to achieve.

* Professional help is sometimes needed. 

And so much more.