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Leadership is exponentially better when accompanied by the skill of asking powerful questions. If you are a problem-solver like me, you might be driving to solutions too quickly and people start running to you to solve the problem instead of taking the ball and running with it. That can be tiring!!! And it limits the team’s potential when leaders become a bottleneck to solving problems. Questions have the power to turn the tables – to change that conversation. When I married a scientist who makes a living asking questions to find solutions to seemingly unsolvable things, that’s when I saw this question-asking skill in action. He would answer every question with another question. Only problem in a marriage that can be rather irritating. Maybe in leadership, too! Observing this question-asking skill in my husband was like a confrontation to my well practiced problem solving leadership skills. I felt like it slowed us down every time we were trying to make a decision and get this show on the road. My drive to get to a decision and take action had the potential to make me skip steps or miss out on important information that would help make a better decision. I actually have become a keen observer of people who ask questions. I admire them and want to become better and better at asking powerful questions that help others move toward their own solutions or decisions. One of my observations is that Jesus in the gospels asked a lot of powerful questions …. EXPAND SELF-AWARENESS You know, those kinds of questions that get people thinking. The ones that turn the mirror around so you see a truer reflection of who you are. They have the power to confront lies with truth, blow up limitations that are holding us back or turn around those false beliefs that keep us trapped. Like when Jesus said to the man at the pool of Bethesda, “Do you want to be made well?” (John 5:6) or to the two blind men in Matthew 9:28 when Jesus asked, “Do you believe that I am able to do this?” In both instances, the questions require the hearer to look inward and do some self-assessment. CHALLENGE OUR ASSUMPTIONS Another kind of question that Jesus asked that always gets my attention is those questions when he challenged assumptions. We are all set in our ways and have our own biases – this is the kind of question that unsettles us. They can be confrontive, yet they are gifts because they shake us out of narrow thinking to broaden our perspective Like when Jesus pointed out hypocrisy in the Pharisees about healing on the Sabbath by asking, “Is it lawful on the Sabbath to do good or to do evil, to save life or destroy it? (Luke 6:9) OR with the story of the Good Samaritan where he poses the question, “So which of these three do you think was neighbor to him who fell among the thieves?” (Lk 10:36). In both situations, Jesus demonstrates the complexity of a situation by sharing a story or a parable and then asks a question that challenges their thinking. INVITING OTHERS IN Just as much as Jesus used questions to confront, he also used questions to invite people into a deeper relationship or understanding. He asked questions that let the disciples think for themselves – to find their own solutions or recap what they had been learning through an experience. Questions that would lead down the path of deeper knowledge and insight. These kinds of questions are an opportunity for us to grow and to expand our thinking. With these questions, Jesus was able to invite participation instead of telling people what to do or think. When Jesus was having a conversation with the disciples and he asked, “Who do men say that I am?”, they answered him and then he takes it deeper and asks, “Who do you say that I am?” (Mark 8:27-29). He often used these kinds of inviting questions when he was talking with the disciples. LET'S ASK MORE QUESTIONS! I am not saying Jesus always used questions. He gave answers, too. He offered a whole lot of teaching. Sometimes he told the disciples what to do. I’m just amazed at how he used questions so artfully. As you have probably guessed by now: I am intrigued by questions. I certainly like answers!!! It’s still my default >> and I am learning to enhance my default with more questions. That’s why I am inviting listeners like you to ask questions so together we can take it deeper and find the questions behind the question. Because, there usually isn’t one right answer. Our leadership is not a one-size-fits-all situation. Listen to the episode to get a question asking exercise that will help you become more savvy in asking more powerful questions. HERE'S AN ASSIGNMENT FOR YOU: For the next 2 weeks, keep a question journal. Write down questions as they come up – capture them like brainstorming without judgment, without grammar editing, just “brain dump”. If you want to make it extra challenging. Set a daily goal of 5 questions a day. Check in at the end of each week and watch how your questions are evolving as you ask more and more questions. www.leadingbettertogether.com/questions LINKS TO CHECK OUT: Send your question HERE – in writing or by recording Blog by Annie: Turn Your Advice Into A Question Learn more about Annie
