The Queer Family Podcast
The Queer Family Podcast
Jaimie kelton
Introducing "Lost Spaces"
57 minutes Posted Jan 1, 2024 at 4:00 am.
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S14 EP15 BONUS | Join Jaimie in this Holiday Bonus Episode as she guests on 'Lost Spaces' with K Anderson! Jaimie shares her experience growing up in San Francisco surrounded by queer culture but struggling to recognize her own queerness. She discusses the male-dominated gay world she witnessed in the 80s and 90s and the lack of representation of gay women. Jaimie reflects on her journey of self-discovery, including experimenting with women and eventually embracing her identity as a lesbian. She also discusses the challenges of coming out to her parents and the stereotypes surrounding "U-Haul lesbians." Throughout her story, Jaimie emphasizes the importance of embracing one's differences and shedding the need for perfectionism. Dive into this special episode with a personal touch from Jaimie.

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🏳️‍🌈Key Takeaways:🏳️‍🌈

  • Growing up in a queer-friendly environment does not guarantee immediate self-recognition of one's own queerness.
  • Representation and exposure to diverse queer experiences are crucial in understanding and accepting one's own sexuality.
  • Coming out can be a complex and ongoing process, with individuals gradually embracing and fully owning their identities.
  • The queer community can provide support and a sense of belonging during the process of self-discovery.
  • Losing perfection means letting go of the need to control others' perception of you.


  • "I think everybody has a little bit of gay in them and they just haven't found it yet." - Jaimie Kelton
  • "I knew there was community. I knew I would not be alone if I decided to come out.” - Jaimie Kelton
  • “I feel like I touched my toe real slowly into this gay water." - Jaimie Kelton

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