To often and by well intentioned people, survivors of abuse and trauma are told they need to forgive, forget, and move on, or they are told to get over it, it is done and over with. These words need to be removed from the vocabulary of those using them. Yes we need to learn to forgive and we need to be able to move on. However, this is a process. Forgetting our past is actually not a good thing nor is it psychologically possible. However, we never want to dwell or stay stuck in the trauma of our past. This podcast talks about why we do not want to forget our past, instead we need to learn from our past