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Self-deception is the lie you sell yourself before you ever sell it to anyone else. This is why you can be sincere and manipulative at the very same time, and how to finally catch it.In this video, relationship and trauma recovery specialist Kenny Weiss breaks down self-deception, the quiet form of lying to yourself that keeps high-functioning, emotionally exhausted adults stuck for decades. Through the real story of a man who kept a job "for his wife," you'll see how emotional avoidance and denial actually work, why your most convincing audience is always you, and why no amount of communication advice can fix a lie you have already believed.You'll learn how self-deception lives in the Denial stage of the Worst Day Cycle™ (Trauma, Fear, Shame, Denial), why covert manipulation can feel completely sincere, and how the Authentic Self Cycle™ (Truth, Responsibility, Healing, Forgiveness) and the Emotional Authenticity Method™ give you a step-by-step way to catch the lie one second before you sell it.Self-deception runs in a specific order. You sell the lie to yourself first, which is why a person can be manipulative and sincere at the same time. The manipulation of another person is always downstream of the lie you tell yourself.Denial is the most dangerous stage of the Worst Day Cycle because it is invisible to the person living inside it. The speed of your defense is the measure of your denial, and the patterns you most want to dismiss are usually the ones that are most true.Covert manipulation is often more damaging than overt control because it arrives wrapped in kindness, leaving the other person with nothing to point to. The person delivering it feels sincere because they convinced themselves of the generous version first.Kenny Weiss is a relationship, communication, and childhood trauma recovery specialist and the creator of the Worst Day Cycle™, the Authentic Self Cycle™, and the Emotional Authenticity Method™. He helps high-functioning adults who have already tried therapy, coaching, and self-help and still feel stuck, by rewiring the childhood emotional blueprint instead of managing symptoms.TOPICS COVERED: self-deception, lying to yourself, emotional avoidance, denial, covert manipulation, self-deception in relationships, why you lie to yourself, avoidant attachment, codependency recovery, childhood trauma and relationships, emotional regulation, survival persona, Worst Day Cycle, Authentic Self Cycle, Emotional Authenticity Method, Kenny WeissTIMESTAMPS:0:00 — The Generous Lie He Told Himself1:30 — Self-Deception Runs in a Specific Order3:30 — The Denial Stage of the Worst Day Cycle6:00 — When Manipulation Disguises Itself as Generosity9:00 — The Floor Underneath the Floor12:00 — Where the Lie Was Built in Childhood14:30 — The Two Selves at War Inside You17:00 — Truth and Responsibility, the Way Out19:00 — One Experiment to Catch the Lie21:00 — You Are Not Broken, You Were Programmed🤖 Talk to my free AI Coach: https://kennyweiss.net🕺🏼 Schedule a Session: https://calendly.com/kennyweiss/single-session-350📣 Client Reviews: https://bit.ly/30zFTBN📚 My New Book: Your Journey To Being Yourself; https://amzn.to/3U1IGNZ📚 My First Book: 'Your Journey To Success': https://amzn.to/3nfVphr🌍 My Website: https://www.kennyweiss.net🎓Online Masterclasses: https://thegreatnessu.com/coursesFREE childhood Assessment: https://kennyweiss.net/childhood-assessmentFREE Emotional Blueprint Quiz: https://kennyweiss.net/emotional-blueprint-quiz🕺CONNECT WITH ME:Heal The Hurt Weekly Podcast 🎙https://spoti.fi/46FSmAjInstagram 📸 @kennyweiss.kwFacebook 👥 https://www.facebook.com/kennyweiss.netNewsletter 💌 https://geni.us/kennyweissnewsletter#SelfDeception #EmotionalHealing #TraumaRecovery #Codependency #KennyWeiss