Growing Through Grief

Whether or not we are aware of it, trauma is a massive transformative force. It molds the way we think and also how we see, react to, and accept reality. In other words, we are a byproduct of our traumatic experiences and the mechanisms we developed to deal with them. However, that doesn't mean there is nothing we can do about it. In this episode, I invite you to bring conscious attention to your inherited family trauma. We learn how to look at it with compassion and curiosity, recognize our responses, and modify our reactions to it. We think of inherited family trauma as a group responsibility and not an individual experience. Plus, we learn mechanisms to accept and embrace painful memories, to allow them to go through us, and, more importantly, how to let them go. We also learn to accept our truth, and I share three points to consider when bringing attention to inherited trauma.In This Episode, You Will Learn:What does it mean to bring attention to inherited trauma? (3:58)Addictions are evidence of family dynamics (8:31)You can let go of most of the things you are carrying (12:15)What if you accept that traumatic experience you endured as a child? (20:29)Three points to remember when thinking of your inherited family trauma (22:06)Your job is to remember the best is yet to come (26:35)Resources:Growing Through Grief System - Book NowLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We make a conscious effort to learn how to grieve a loved one. We are aware of the challenges we might be forced to face, the pain we must endure, and the growth we should seek. But what about our own transition? How prepared are we to talk about it? In this episode, Jane Duncan Rogers visits us to encourage the conversation that no one likes to think about, yet everyone should. Jane is the Founder of Before I Go Solutions, a non-profit dedicated to creating end-of-life plans. She is an Author and Facilitator specializing in conversations about dying, death, grief, bereavement, and end-of-life planning, and was the first person to lead You Can Heal Your Life® study groups in the UK, inspired by the book of the same name by Louise Hay. Throughout our conversation, Jane shared the story of how one of the chapters of her book, Gifted by Grief, originated a discussion about end-of-life conversations. We go through Jane's grief journey, her emotions after losing her husband, and how she dealt with them. We also talk about front door/back door feelings, normalizing feeling angry, creating a living will, advanced healthcare directives, and so much more. Some Questions I Ask:I heard you say you and your husband went through cancer together. Would you share a little bit about that? (5:55)Could you talk a little bit about the work you started decades ago, about healing yourself? (15:28)In This Episode, You Will Learn:About Jane's book, Gifted by Grief, and what people loved about it (3:51)There's nothing like facing the end to see things more clearly (7:13)What you feel, you can heal (15:41)Anger is not necessarily a bad thing (18:21)Some of the things we should take care of while we are still here (25:34)Never judge yourself for the feelings you have (40:12)Resources:websiteYouTubeFacebookTwitterBook: Gifted By Grief: A True Story of Cancer, Loss, and RebirthBook: Before I Go: The Essential Guide to Creating a Good End-of-Life PlanGrowing Through Grief System - Book NowConnect with Jane:LinkedInLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Although the mind is a known, familiar, and predictable space where we spend a lot of our time, it is not always a safe place. The mind guides our lives, whether we are aware of it or not, but it does not always lead our life in the direction we would like. So, is it possible to control where our mind is taking us, to change what is floating there? In this episode, we unravel the best-kept secret to healing a broken heart. We learn how to deal with the shadows that reside in our minds and blur the paths we would like our minds to follow. We talk about love, not in a conventional way, but in a way you might not have heard before. We learn how to cleanse our hearts, center ourselves, and be surrounded by nothing but love. We also explore the law of reciprocity, learn how it really works, the best way to get the best out of it for us and those we love, and so much more.  In This Episode, You Will Learn:A clear mind creates a clear heart (3:52)How do you allow goodness to come into your life? (5:39)What happens in your life once you can BE with your emotions (8:07)The law of reciprocity. How to embrace it? (14:13)How to fill your heart with an abundance of empathy, love, and understanding (17:27)Why you should choose to move to the next level of your life (24:47)Resources:Growing Through Grief System - Book NowLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, as I was celebrating the culmination of a very intense, compassionate, and loving year-long process, a warming phone call helped me realize that growth is all that matters. Regardless of how we choose to do it, keeping on growing is the perfect way to free ourselves from past trauma, enjoy being present, and be filled with peace. In this episode, we learn how to open our hearts even when it hurts. We explore why some past experiences we don't remember clearly or aren't consciously aware of come to haunt us, what we can do about them, and how to set ourselves free from them. We understand why some of our personal relationships with those we love might change during our growth process, how to deal with that, and what is the only relationship we can't neglect. We also go through an interesting analogy between mountains and challenges that will help you understand why a new difficulty arises after every victory. In This Episode, You Will Learn:Life is about growth, growth, and more growth (1:45)Climbing through challenges becomes easier with practice (2:41)Growth processes aren't cookies and cream all the time (4:19)Why it is so hard to understand how we feel (10:27)How to process and release the things that put us down (16:04)Resources:Growing Through Grief System - Book NowLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Generally, the urgent receives more attention than the important, and there is nothing particularly wrong with that; we must take care of what's bothering us right now. Still, there is always something else beyond the current issue. It is a fact that every unwanted habit or pattern is rooted in childhood trauma, and to find the way back to ourselves, we must revisit what hurt us in the past and find a way to make peace with it. The inspiration for today's episode came from a totally unexpected source; someone asked me a question that triggered a whole new way of looking at disconnection with the self and the feeling of losing track of who we are. I invite you to search and explore the origin of your pain and the past experiences that trigger the behaviors or habits you want to get rid of. I offer some of the golden nuggets my mentor shared with me about pain and its origin and the best way to get rid of it. We also learn how to deal with trauma using the SURE acronym, my approach to finding the way back to ourselves, and the three questions that will make that challenging task more accessible. In This Episode, You Will Learn:Are you chasing yourself? What does that mean anyway? (2:21)What you can do to stop feeling the pain from childhood traumas (7:39)The past is always paying you a visit (9:21)The SURE acronym and how it can help you (11:51)What you can do to find a way back to yourself (13:51)Three questions that will help you get back on track towards who you are (16:43)Resources:Growing Through Grief System - Book NowLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How often do you have the overwhelming sensation of being trapped in your mind, engaging with senseless thoughts in endless chatter? If you let yourself go and nurture that inner conversation, you'll be a captive of crippling anxiety in no time. But don't worry, there is a remedy to that, and it lies right within you. In today's episode, we discover our way back to love. Not the love we experience through external validation or the sympathy of others out of passion or admiration, but the kind of love only we can give ourselves: self-love. We explore how despite any circumstances, there's always an opportunity to bring more love into our lives; we learn how to open ourselves to love and use the most powerful tool ever gifted to us to do it, our breath. Together, we discover how blending our mind and spirit can become an unstoppable force capable of silencing the inner chatter and connecting ourselves with what truly matters. In This Episode, You Will Learn:What does it mean to surrender to love? (2:46)There is always space to invite more love into your life (5:40)We practice a simple yet powerful exercise to be present (8:25)The mind is the king of everything, but the breath is the king of the mind (9:41)Why it is so essential to clear out the darkness and bring light into our minds (15:34)The mind loves drama, and it has the power to change your experiences (19:33)Let's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Grief and love are two of our most important emotions, and although they might seem to navigate parallel paths, they have several things in common, and they are more intertwined than we think. In today's episode, we go through some of those points where grief meets love; we analyze how grief can take us back to love and understand why experiencing pain and suffering is necessary to love and feel loved again. We also look at our responsibility of keeping the loved ones that transitioned alive through our words and actions and what we can do to honor them. In addition, we learn the difference between accepting fear's presence and giving it a vote and a voice to suggest detours and action plans. Together, we go beyond the surface-level of grief; we choose to love ourselves, praise and celebrate every single baby step in our growth journey. In This Episode, You Will Learn:Can grief be loving? (1:37)The best way to deal with fear in our lives (2:28)Grief might certainly not feel like love at the beginning (5:01)What would you choose, between self-love and self-suffering (9:02)My decision about using grief instead of being used by it (12:17)God can't change a thing if you don't believe in it (17:06)Resources:Growing Through Grief System - Book NowLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We know grief can take us to several places; some are filled with pain and loneliness, others can make us grow and evolve, and some might lead us to connect with other souls walking a similar path. We recognize grief's effects but sometimes forget its practical use. We forget we can use grief as a tool; we forget it's up to us to grab it and use it to heal. In this episode, inspired by a conversation with a webinar colleague and friend, we explore grief's applicability, unravel grief's healing properties, and learn how it can be a catalyst for healing grief. Together, we question why we let ourselves be dragged into past traumatic or painful experiences and decide to sink and stay in that pain.We also examine our own grief; what is it that we are really grieving? Is it a previous version of ourselves, perhaps an idealized future version that never came to fruition? Tune in, and let's find out the answers to these questions together. In This Episode, You Will Learn:About the things that we already know but might change our mindset if we look at them differently (2:19)What or who is it that we are really grieving for? (4:27)How grief can be a catalyst to heal (7:34)"Trauma is not what happens to you (...)" - Dr. Gabor Maté's definition of trauma (8:57)What kind of world is the one you want to create? (13:44)Life happens, and grief happens with life (16:13)Resources:Growing Through Grief System - Book NowLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you have an old memory that haunts you? Perhaps you've done something to someone or yourself that makes you feel bad every time you think about it. Is there anyone in your small circle of friends constantly reminding you about that thing that automatically puts you down? If so, do you know how to deal with it? Do you know what to do when you are not okay? Let's find out.In this episode, we talk about those moments when we struggle to feel like ourselves, when sadness takes over, and our mind insists on returning to old thoughts, hurting feelings, and sad memories. We address some of the most common responses to this feeling and explore examples of how NOT to deal with it. In addition, I share three simple yet powerful ways of becoming YOU again. All of them require your presence and awareness, but the third one demands a little extra work, which I'm sure you're perfectly capable of. Let's dive right into them. In This Episode, You Will Learn:The things we should avoid doing when we are not feeling okay (2:36)What does it mean when you are not fine with yourself (3:51)How to avoid getting distracted by the things happening outside of us (7:03)The best way to acknowledge you are not okay (7:42)Why it is crucial to avoid self-judgment (9:45)When you let go of something, you must replace it with something bigger (14:47)Let's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Especially after a couple of years of forced isolation because of the pandemic, the feeling of loneliness has expanded worldwide. Feeling lonely is not "an elder's thing" anymore; it has spread and affects people from all walks of life, regardless of their age. So, is loneliness necessarily a bad thing? Should we avoid it at all costs, or would it be better to sit with it and use it to heal? Let's find out!In this episode, we take a minute to observe and analyze how the feeling of loneliness has penetrated over half of the world's population. We explore the effects of loneliness in the long term and why almost nobody likes to talk about it and struggles to accept it as a natural experience in life. I share a message from a dear friend who was experiencing loneliness and the powerful lessons that letter taught me about myself and how to deal with feeling lonely. In This Episode, You Will Learn:Some alarming statistics about the feeling of loneliness in the world (1:56)The letter of a dear friend that inspired today's episode (4:06)What can you do if you feel lonely? Lesson N°1 (5:34)Who should you reach out to if you feel lonely? Lesson N°2 (6:45)Why most people are struggling to accept loneliness as a natural part of life (9:12)Where should you look for support if you feel lonely? Lesson N°3 (11:15)Resources:Growing Through Grief System - Book NowLet's Connect!FacebookTwitterInstagramLinkedInWebsiteFacebook Group - Growing Through Grief Together Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.