A lot of gay men pride themselves on being “nice”— easygoing, agreeable, low-drama. But what if that’s exactly why you’re not getting what you want?In this episode, we break down the difference between being kind and being “nice,” and how approval-seeking, conflict avoidance, and over-accommodating are quietly killing attraction, respect, and real connection. We talk about:Why “nice” is often a strategy, not a personalityThe hidden cost of being liked by everyoneHow this shows up in dating and relationshipsThe difference between being chosen vs. being likedHow to shift from approval-seeking to self-respectingIf you’ve ever felt overlooked, under-appreciated, or stuck in the friend-zone, this one will hit.Today's Hosts:Matt LandsiedelMichael DiIorio - Take the 360° Self-Review for Gay MenReno JohnstonSupport the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes- CONNECT WITH US -Watch podcast episodes on YouTubeJoin the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook communityGet on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com- LEARN WITH US -Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame. Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection: Lifetime access to BOTH courses + 45 coaching videos and 2 workshop series. Take the Attachment Style Quiz to determine your attachment style and get a free report.