In this episode, Matt speaks with therapist and author Tom Bruett about the struggles many gay men face with romantic relationships. Together they share decades of experience when it comes to understanding the relational challenges faced by gay men. From toxic shame to developmental trauma, they unpack what causes these challenges and how to start healing and empowering ourselves in our relationships. If you are someone who struggles in your romantic relationships with intimacy, vulnerability or codependency, this episode was created with you in mind. This is an excellent episode if you're seeking guidance in relationship challenges, but it will also help you feel less alone in struggling with two of the most challenging things about being human; emotions and relationships. The questions explored in this episode:Why do gay men struggle in relationships? What is required for gay men to develop secure attachment?What is the difference between secure attachment and secure relationship? What does a secure relationship look like? What are the stages of queer relationship development?Related Link:The Secure Attachment HandbookToday's Guest: Tom BruettInstagramToday's Host: Matt LandsiedelFacebookInstagramTikTokSupport the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes- CONNECT WITH US -Watch podcast episodes on YouTubeJoin the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook communityGet on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls Follow us on Instagram | TikTok Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com - LEARN WITH US -Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.