Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery Podcast

Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery

Barb Nangle
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This is the podcast "Fragmented to Whole: Life Lessons from 12 Step Recovery." It will help people who want to heal to move from fragmented to whole. Hi, I'm Barb! I share my experience, strength and hope from 12 step recovery in each episode. They're all 20 minutes or less. Unlike most recovery podcasts where you hear a person's whole story, in this one, each episode is about a specific topic. There are many life lessons from 12 step recovery that are applicable to those in and outside of recovery. This podcast brings some of those lessons to the airwaves, including such topics as learning acceptance, recognizing and overcoming victim mentality and establishing healthy boundaries.
11 Steps for How to Build Your Own Personalized Boundary System Part 2 | Episode 247
Last week, I shared the first half of the steps I take all of my boundary clients through to build their personalized boundary system. Today, I’ll be sharing the final half of the steps so that you can create a boundary system that works for you! This week’s episode 247 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is part 2 of the steps to build your own personalized boundary system! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! If you missed part 1 of these steps, refer back to episode 246 where I cover steps 1-5. The steps I go over in this episode include:6. Learn how to let good things in as well as keep bad things out.7. Set boundaries of self-protection.8. Set boundaries of self-containment. 9. Hold onto your property. You’re the one responsible for it. 10. Align with your values. 11. Stay connected to healthy, safe, and loving people as you build healthy boundaries.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Ep 9. My Tools of Recovery Part II: Reaching OutEp. 12. Stop Gossiping CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea
Jan 15, 2024
21 min
11 Steps for How to Build Your Own Personalized Boundary System Part 1 | Episode 246
I take all of my boundaries clients through a series of steps to build their personalized boundary system and I wanted to share these steps with you today. This week’s episode 246 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is part 1 of the steps to build your own personalized boundary system!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of determining your top 5 values BEFORE starting any boundary work and actionable steps you can take right now to create a boundary setting system that feels good to you!The steps I go over in this episode include:Alter your mindset.Develop empowered communication.Shed your masks.Deal with the pushback that inevitably comes.Recognize who owns what.Tune into next week’s episode as I cover steps 6-11.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Ep 156. Info, Not AmmoEp. 9. My Tools of Recovery Part II: Reaching OutCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea
Jan 8, 2024
23 min
How to Stop the Self-Sabotage and Get Over Your Fear of Abandonment | Episode 245
Sometimes people refer to self-sabotage as things like shooting themselves in the foot, not showing up for themselves, or not following through for themselves. This is incredibly common for those of us in recovery. ACA has taught me that another way to refer to self-sabotage is to call it self-abandonment. And this makes sense because as adult children, we were brought up on abandonment so of course we would only learn to abandon ourselves. This week’s episode 245 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to stop the self-sabotage and get over your fear of abandonment.Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:Why it is so common for adult children of alcoholics and dysfunctional families to self-sabotage or self-abandon themselves. Some of the ways we might abandon ourselves. 2 important reasons it is helpful to connect this abandonment behavior to our status as adult children. When you start calling self-sabotage, self-abandonment there is s solution to that. And that solution is becoming your own inner-loving parent.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:The ACA SolutionCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea
Jan 1, 2024
16 min
How to Effectively Communicate When Someone Says, ‘You Don’t Care About Me’ | Episode 244
When someone says something like ‘You don’t care about me’ to you and you defend it, you’re the one declaring war against them. How you respond in these scenarios determines whether you’re entering into a conflict or a conversation. This week’s episode 244 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to effectively communicate when someone says, ‘you don’t care about me’.Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing what to do to show someone you care about them and get to the root of the problem instead of getting defensive and listing the reasons you DO care about them. I also share the specific language you can use to communicate effectively in any scenario.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea
Dec 25, 2023
11 min
How I Went from Trauma Response to Miraculous Recovery- A Story of Driving and Toenails | Episode 243
A couple of instances have come up in my life recently where I realized how far I have come since recovery. Scenarios that used to trigger an emotional trauma response are replaced with clarity and calmness. And in times like this, I become super appreciative of my recovery. This week’s episode 243 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how I went from trauma response to miraculous recovery- a story of driving and toenails.Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing experiences in my life that triggered a dramatic trauma response before getting into recovery and how recovery has allowed me to change physiologically to live a more peaceful life. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families 12 Step Recovery Fellowship (aka ACA or ACOA)Episode 17: GUILT AND SHAME Episode 179:  Freedom from the Lie of Shame - You're Not Inherently FlawedCONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea
Dec 18, 2023
15 min
How to Stop Trusting Untrustworthy People and Start Trusting Yourself | Episode 242
One of the many revelations I had while in recovery is that I had been trusting untrustworthy people my entire life. These people had proven to me time and time again that they were not to be trusted and when they broke my trust I would inevitably get upset over it. When I eventually learned to find my part in things, I realized I was the one at fault- for continuing to trust untrustworthy people! This week’s episode 242 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to stop trusting untrustworthy people and start trusting yourself!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing examples from my life where I got burned for continuing to trust people who had already shown me that they were untrustworthy and how building self-trust was the foundation that helped me come out of this harmful behavior pattern. I also share the amazing benefits that self-trust has given me.Trust is something that can only be built over time. We can only determine if someone is trustworthy by seeing their continued patterns of behavior.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea
Dec 11, 2023
18 min
3 Conceptual Shifts Learned in Recovery and How They'll Change Your Life | Episode 241
It’s occurred to me recently that a huge part of 12-step recovery is changing our perceptions or the ways in which we perceive certain concepts. And when we can make these mental shifts, the way we view our circumstances or situations we find ourselves in changes drastically. This week’s episode 241 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about 3 conceptual shifts learned in recovery and how they’ll change your life!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing 3 (of the many) shifts that have come up for me personally, with a client or with someone in recovery, and sharing how these shifts might come up in your life and what to do about them when they do. The 3 conceptual shifts I go over in this episode include:Making the distinction between submitting to something and surrendering to something.Understanding that something may be reasonable and at the same time, unrealistic.Drawing the line between acceptance and setting boundaries.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea
Dec 4, 2023
19 min
From Abuse to Abundance with Tiffany Carter | Episode 240
Content Warning: This episode includes mentions of grooming, sexual abuse of a minor, and suicidal ideations. If you’ve experienced abuse and hit rock bottom it can feel in that moment that you’ll never be able to get yourself out. Fortunately, there is a path out but the hard truth of the matter is that the only way out is through. The only way to get past the pain and towards abundance is by facing the pain head on. On episode 240 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m joined by Tiffany Carter as she shares her journey from abuse to abundance!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, Tiffany opens up about the 10 years of grooming and abuse she faced at a young age and how years later it was divine intervention that brought her into the program that helped her begin to heal.Some of the things Tiffany and I discuss in this episode include:Creating her false self by emulating confident people as a survival tactic. Abundance is so much more than money- its self-worth, safety, respect and overall health. Socially acceptable coping mechanisms that Tiffany leaned towards to disassociate with her life.The life-saving divine intervention that brought Tiffany to an ACA meeting after years of unproductive therapy.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ CONNECT WITH TIFFANY:InstagramTikTokYouTubeProjectME Podcast- Apple PodcastsProjectME Podcast- Spotify{FREE} Your Season of Abundance: Guided Walking Meditation: Make More • Work Less: a Guided Workbook LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Childhood Trauma and Money Drama two-part series: Episodes 555 and 556Attachment Styles and Money four-part series: Episodes 516, 517, 518, & 519CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! 
Nov 27, 2023
39 min
Little T vs. Big T Trauma: What They Are and Why They Matter to Your Mental Health and Recovery | Episode 239
When most people think of trauma, they’re thinking of the trauma that comes to those who have survived hurricanes, sexual assault, war, etc. This type of trauma is what we refer to as big T trauma but this isn’t the only type of trauma. There is another kind of trauma known as little T trauma or relational trauma that happens over time, most often in the context of a relationship. This week’s episode 239 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about big T vs. little T trauma: what they are and why they matter to your mental health and recovery. Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the life experiences that brought on my own big T and little T trauma and how you might be holding onto trauma yourself, without even realizing it.Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:The difference between big T and little T trauma and where they stem from.Many people are in denial about their trauma because they don’t realize they have little T trauma. How both kinds of trauma can manifest themselves in our feelings and actions when left unidentified and untreated. The impact that underlying trauma has on a person’s ability to heal. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:ACES Quiz QuestionsAbout ACESAdult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families 12 Step Recovery Fellowship (ACA or ACOA)CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea
Nov 20, 2023
22 min
Why Self-Care is Not Selfish, It's Self-Preservation | Episode 238
Many of us don't take good care of ourselves. We're completely drained, run ragged, and exhausted and yet, we still try to give to others. Instead of continually pouring from an empty cup, pour from the overflow. And the only way your cup is going to have overflow is if YOU fill it. This week’s episode 238 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about why self-care is not selfish, it’s self-preservation!Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of practicing self-care and doing things to promote your mental, physical, and spiritual health so that you can go into the world from a point of abundance, not lack.You cannot expect other people or wait for other people to fill your cup, you have to do it yourself.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletterFree boundaries resourcesFacebookInstagramPatreonWork with Barb! Buy Barb a tea
Nov 13, 2023
13 min
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