Her Mother Tongue
Her Mother Tongue
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231// Pt 2 Be the Calm Your Kids Need, Talking Less and Reducing Anger // Michaeleen Doucleff Hunter Gather Parent
55 minutes Posted May 2, 2023 at 10:01 am.
Premise of Hunter, Gather, Parent9:50 - 100 commands vs. 3 commands per hour12:00 - A request is giving our kids the chance to obey or rebel14:30 - Master the facial expressions and gestures15:11 - Ask 3 times calmly18:59 - Parent is the pole analogy22:11 - Don’t talk for your kids25:17 - At intersecting points, redirect your kids to the family27:58 - Misbehavior is a call for responsibility & freedom29:00 - Our work is their play32:15 - We can infuse connection into our daily chores35:35 - Never in anger39:19 - Take a breath & say nothing when feeling angry41:10 - Yelling trains our kids not to listen43:15 - When we respond with kindness & quiet, we teach them to do the same48:13 - How we see our kids is changes how we act towards themSponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Review of the week:Cherise L&D nurse, 03/15/2023I just want to take the time to thank you for being such a positive change in my life. I started listening to you guys while I was in nursing school back in 2020. Your very first podcast on morning routines changed my life forever. I then purchased “Miracle Morning” and have lived by this since then. I wake up every morning, oil pull, set my diffusers, do yoga, sip on tea, and if I have time run with my dog (I even make sure to do this on my work days). Being a busy mom of 2 kids ages 7 and 4 that I partially homeschool (they’re also in a homeschool co op), wife, and a nurse, I can’t thank you ladies enough. Your podcasts help center myself as a parent. It’s so easy to get caught up in the day to day busy lifestyle, and when I do find that happening, I pop my ear buds in and go on a run and listen to you ladies. I tell every single mom about your podcast. You have made such a positive change for my family. I truly can’t even begin to tell you how much gratitude I have for your show.Thank you,Cherise This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alwaysfelicia.substack.com/subscribe
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Some parenting wisdom feels true to our core; that is how we felt when we read much of the wisdom from Hunter Gather Parent by Michaleen Doucleff. Today we are sharing our favorite nuggets from the book pertaining to disciplining our kids. The advice is less prescriptive and more in line with what we know to be true as parents and humans. Our children are learning. Our role is to see them with love and respect and teach them the ways of their family tribe. We tackle how to direct our kids with less force, create cooperation, and reduce the amount of anger in our homes. Find part one of our conversation here - 230 // Pt 1: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen DoucleffBooks, Quotes, & Links MentionedUnderstanding Praise and How We Can Use It to Give Our Kids Confidence Instead of InsecurityHunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff “When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions, it's our job to share our calm, not join their chaos.”― L.R. KnostTime Stamps7:15 - Premise of Hunter, Gather, Parent9:50 - 100 commands vs. 3 commands per hour12:00 - A request is giving our kids the chance to obey or rebel14:30 - Master the facial expressions and gestures15:11 - Ask 3 times calmly18:59 - Parent is the pole analogy22:11 - Don’t talk for your kids25:17 - At intersecting points, redirect your kids to the family27:58 - Misbehavior is a call for responsibility & freedom29:00 - Our work is their play32:15 - We can infuse connection into our daily chores35:35 - Never in anger39:19 - Take a breath & say nothing when feeling angry41:10 - Yelling trains our kids not to listen43:15 - When we respond with kindness & quiet, we teach them to do the same48:13 - How we see our kids is changes how we act towards themSponsor:GABB WIRELESSWe LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes:Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:)Review of the week:Cherise L&D nurse, 03/15/2023I just want to take the time to thank you for being such a positive change in my life. I started listening to you guys while I was in nursing school back in 2020. Your very first podcast on morning routines changed my life forever. I then purchased “Miracle Morning” and have lived by this since then. I wake up every morning, oil pull, set my diffusers, do yoga, sip on tea, and if I have time run with my dog (I even make sure to do this on my work days). Being a busy mom of 2 kids ages 7 and 4 that I partially homeschool (they’re also in a homeschool co op), wife, and a nurse, I can’t thank you ladies enough. Your podcasts help center myself as a parent. It’s so easy to get caught up in the day to day busy lifestyle, and when I do find that happening, I pop my ear buds in and go on a run and listen to you ladies. I tell every single mom about your podcast. You have made such a positive change for my family. I truly can’t even begin to tell you how much gratitude I have for your show.Thank you,Cherise This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alwaysfelicia.substack.com/subscribe