Fatha Torch: Be the Dad You Wish You Had

Ep. 22 Translating forgiveness can be a challenging process, especially when grappling with emotions such as regret, anger, and confusion. It's crucial to clearly understand oneself to avoid getting lost in a world of pain. Taking the time to forgive is important in accepting the situation and moving forward in your journey to be the dad you wish you had. Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting but rather understanding and accepting what has happened. It is a path to peace and a way to open the door to a brighter future.  As men, we must learn to confront our pain and vulnerabilities head-on to attain redemption. Forgiveness, whether towards oneself or others, may appear unattainable, but dwelling on the negative only hinders the healing process. With the help of loved ones, we can create a nurturing environment that encourages growth and progress. Rather than clinging to familiarity, we should embrace the power of a supportive circle and allow ourselves to heal. This journey of self-discovery can be difficult and uncomfortable, but in the end, it will lead to a more meaningful life. The courage to change is within us, and we must believe in ourselves to find the strength to move forward. SPONSORED BY CREATE A PIZZA: home of the FATHA TORCH Lunch Special Try the Vegan Meatball Pizza with Sexy Cheese and a Drink for only $5.99 766 Monroe Ave, Rochester, NY Order Ahead at www.createapizza585.com   Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: @FathaTorch Website: www.fathatorch.com  ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION -Local Programs for Fathers Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at [email protected]    Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76    Other episodes you'll enjoy: Realistic Expectations: Key to Successful Fatherhood I Am FATHA: Fathers are the Highest Authority (It’s time we act like it) Passing the Torch: Embracing Growth & Maturity as Men   Produced by JazzCast Pros

Ep. 21 Growing up without a father I found myself setting unrealistic expectations on other men in my life, trying to fill the void my father left. But there were always disappointments because those men simply could not give me the things my soul longed for. It wasn't until I learned to set realistic expectations for myself, my partner and my children that I could truly embrace my goal of being the dad I wish I had. In this episode I share with you my journey of self-discovery and how I learned to find joy in the journey of fatherhood by setting realistic expectations. In this episode, you will be able to: Grasp the power of establishing practical expectations in pursuit of accomplishments. Unravel the secrets to fortifying relationships through intentional family planning. Examine the aftermath of damaging expectations and abuse during the prenatal stage. Master techniques to overcome feelings of inadequacy as a devoted father. Unearth strategies to nurture self-esteem and embolden confidence in oneself and others.     SPONSORED BY CREATE A PIZZA: home of the FATHA TORCH Lunch Special Try the Vegan Meatball Pizza with Sexy Cheese and a Drink for only $5.99 766 Monroe Ave, Rochester, NY Order Ahead at www.createapizza585.com   Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: @FathaTorch Website: www.fathatorch.com  ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION -Local Programs for Fathers Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at [email protected]    Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76    Other episodes you'll enjoy: I Am FATHA: Fathers are the Highest Authority (It’s time we act like it) Stop Being Your Child’s Friend and Start Being Their Leader How to Embrace the Wisdom of Elders to Raise the Youth

Ep. 20 As fathers, it's imperative that we possess a deep understanding of ourselves. The archaic notion of relying on guesswork to ascertain our worth and capabilities is a thing of the past. We must be cognizant of our duties and rights as fathers, and we shouldn't have to be reminded of this simply because we are fathers. Because we are men, it is our duty to protect our loved ones from any imminent danger without any apologies. We do not rely on mere likes or friend requests for a solution as we set the trend. But, with discipline and authority, we assist in your growth and prosperity and the development of our survival and legacy. Being honest and trustworthy is crucial. We must acknowledge our limitations and avoid attempting things beyond our abilities. Blindly following authority without questioning it is not a trait of a wise man. This mindset is a product of ignorance and a legacy of conquerors who ruled with authoritarianism, disregarding the feelings and situations of others while serving their wicked interests. SPONSORED BY CREATE A PIZZA: home of the FATHA TORCH Lunch Special Try the Vegan Meatball Pizza with Sexy Cheese and a Drink for only $5.99 766 Monroe Ave, Rochester, NY Order Ahead at www.createapizza585.com   Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: @FathaTorch Website: www.fathatorch.com  ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION -Local Programs for Fathers Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at [email protected]    Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76    Other episodes you'll enjoy: Why Kids Don’t Respect Their Parents Anymore Stop Being Your Child’s Friend and Start Being Their Leader How to Embrace the Wisdom of Elders to Raise the Youth

Ep. 19 Do you want to leave a positive legacy by shaping and guiding the next generation? As 'young elders' we can empower and inspire the youth to reach their full potential and become the leaders of tomorrow.  In this episode of Fatha Torch, I, Rah, delve into the topic of the importance of becoming an elder and sharing wisdom with younger generations. As a father and mentor myself, I understand the need to pass down knowledge and experiences for future generations to learn and grow from. I discuss the four aspects of development - emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual - and how children need to learn how to handle each aspect to reach their full potential. I also touch on the self-destructive nature of gangster culture and the importance of fathers taking up their highest honor to create a space where their children can thrive and grow. In this episode, you will be able to: Embrace the vital role of becoming an elder in society to enrich lives by sharing your wisdom. Balance your growth in emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual aspects for well-rounded development. Acknowledge the damaging effects of gang culture and violence on individuals and communities. Harness your innate power and knowledge for progress across all dimensions of your life. Cultivate essential qualities like discipline, humility, and inner guidance to excel as responsible fathers. SPONSORED BY CREATE A PIZZA: home of the FATHA TORCH Lunch Special Try the Vegan Meatball Pizza with Sexy Cheese and a Drink for only $5.99 766 Monroe Ave, Rochester, NY Order Ahead at www.createapizza585.com   Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: @FathaTorch Website: www.fathatorch.com  ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION -Local Programs for Fathers Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at [email protected]    Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76  Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at [email protected]  Other episodes you'll enjoy: Why Kids Don’t Respect Their Parents Anymore Stop Being Your Child’s Friend and Start Being Their Leader How to Embrace the Wisdom of Elders to Raise the Youth   The key moments in this episode are:00:00:00 - Importance of Mentors, 00:05:03 - Retired Gangsters, 00:09:44 - Becoming an Elder, 00:12:12 - Male Development, 00:13:34 - Lack of Elders, 00:15:24 - Embracing Your Inner Power, 00:17:42 - The Importance of Nurturing, 00:20:06 - Overcoming Fear and Adversity, 00:21:51 - Creating a Legacy, 00:25:18 - Gratitude and Reflection,

Ep. 18 This episode is a tribute to my grandparents who have shaped my life as Fatha Torch, a beacon of light for the next generation. As a father, I believe it is important to honor our elders and learn from their wisdom, especially in these challenging times. In this episode, you will learn: How honoring your elders is a way of embracing and uplifting our generations How to connect with your elders and listen to their stories What benefits you can gain from learning from the wisdom of the past How to pass on the legacy of your elders to your children and future generations Why listening to grandparents is a good way to learn about your cultural heritage and family history SPONSORED BY CREATE A PIZZA: home of the FATHA TORCH Lunch Special Try the Vegan Meatball Pizza with Sexy Cheese and a Drink for only $5.99 766 Monroe Ave, Rochester, NY Order Ahead at www.createapizza585.com   Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: @FathaTorch Website: www.fathatorch.com  ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION -Local Programs for Fathers Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at [email protected]    Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76  Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at [email protected]  Other episodes you'll enjoy: Why Kids Don’t Respect Their Parents Anymore Redefining Masculinity: Balance and Empathy in Relationships | FATHA TORCH Any Fool Can Make a Baby | FATHA TORCH   Podcast Like a Pro! Riverside.FM Promo Code JAZZYCAST for 15% off Remote Recording  JazzCastPros.com for help launching, branding or editing your podcast.   Other Podcasts Mentioned in this episode: Healthy Illness | a podcast by Kelly Marie Heart of the Hustle | a podcast by Monique Chatman

Ep. 17 This episode is a must-listen for parents seeking guidance on discipline and communication with their children. In today's society, many parents walk around on eggshells, and it seems like fathers have no authority when it comes to raising the kids. As an advocate for traditional fatherhood, I have dedicated myself to helping other parents like you reclaim your power and raise kids who respect and obey you.  It's important to establish boundaries and respect, rather than trying to be your child's friend. Issues of teen mental health issues, addiction, and other taboo subjects must be address properly. By advocating for open communication and a supportive community, I believe we can help our children become confident, successful adults.    SPONSORED BY CREATE A PIZZA: home of the FATHA TORCH Lunch Special Try the Vegan Meatball Pizza with Sexy Cheese and a Drink for only $5.99 766 Monroe Ave, Rochester, NY Order Ahead at www.createapizza585.com   Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: @FathaTorch Website: www.fathatorch.com  ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION -Local Programs for Fathers Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76  Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at [email protected]  Other episodes you'll enjoy: Redefining Masculinity: Balance and Empathy in Relationships | FATHA TORCH Any Fool Can Make a Baby | FATHA TORCH Are You a Good Father? It All All Comes Down to This    Podcast Like a Pro! Riverside.FM Promo Code JAZZYCAST for 15% off Remote Recording  JazzCastPros.com for help launching, branding or editing your podcast. In this episode, you will be able to: Explore the complexities of modern fatherhood and its influence on children's growth. Scrutinize current parenting approaches and the growing disregard for respect. Recognize the significance of a solid foundation and discipline in raising children. Embrace the power of community backing, empathy, and solidarity within the black community. Tackle open dialogues on taboo subjects and the consequences of societal repression. The key moments in this episode are:00:00:00 - Being a Father vs Being a Friend, 00:01:14 - Parenting in Today's Society, 00:05:40 - The Importance of Respect, 00:09:36 - The Reality of Parenting, 00:13:36 - The Challenges of Parenting for Black Fathers, 00:15:16 - Advocating for the Children, 00:17:38 - Bring Back the Village, 00:21:06 - Be the Part, 00:23:07 - Breaking Taboos, 00:24:50 - You Are Not Alone,

Ep. 16 Sitting in our favorite pizza joint, Create a Pizza, I felt a sense of peace as we shared a vegan meatball pizza. Little did I know, I was about to embark on a journey that would forever change my understanding of masculinity and empathy. As I conversed with my wife, I realized I had to adapt my behaviors to be a better husband and father. But what happened next was truly unexpected and has left me with a newfound appreciation for life's little moments. The resources mentioned in this episode are: Visit Creative Pizza at 766 Monroe Avenue, mention Father Torch and enjoy the $5.99 lunch special with a drink. Focus on understanding yourself and your own expectations in relationships, especially with your children and spouse. Make sure to respect and love your spouse, communicating openly and without belittling or disregarding their opinions and feelings. Adapt to your children's needs without losing the foundation of being a father, ensuring you maintain effective communication. Give your children the benefit of the doubt and avoid making assumptions based on their actions or the people they associate with. Develop a strong relationship with your children through dialogue and understanding, being open to their experiences and perspectives. Avoid bringing up past experiences to justify assumptions about your children's behavior and instead focus on the present situation. Understanding RelationshipsIn relationships, it is essential to acknowledge the differences in how men and women approach them. Each partner comes with their unique views and expectations, often shaped by their personal experiences and upbringing. Understanding these differences is the first step towards building a strong foundation for a deeper connection with one's partner. When communication is clear and respectful, the relationship thrives, making it easier for both parties to navigate any difficulties that arise. Fathers represent authority, so they should be able to understand or overstand when something is out of order. - Rah   SPONSORED BY CREATE A PIZZA: home of the FATHA TORCH Lunch Special Try the Vegan Meatball Pizza with Sexy Cheese and a Drink for only $5.99 766 Monroe Ave, Rochester, NY Order Ahead at www.createapizza585.com Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: @FathaTorch Website: www.fathatorch.com  ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION -Local Programs for Fathers Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76  Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at [email protected]  Other episodes you'll enjoy: Any Fool Can Make a Baby | FATHA TORCH Are You a Good Father? It All All Comes Down to This  Letter to My Youngest Son | FATHA TORCH   Podcast Like a Pro! Riverside.FM Promo Code JAZZYCAST for 15% off Remote Recording  JazzCastPros.com for help launching, branding or editing your podcast.

Ep. 15 Your dad was an asshole, alcoholic, abuser or just not around to teach you how to be a good man right? So it's up to us the be the change we wish to see in the next generation of fathers. I was surrounded by men who were a waste of time, women who blocked the teaching of fatherhood, and people who were more excited to see a stranger than me. I realized I needed to learn how to be patient with my children, treasure them, protect them from emotional and mental harm, and always be real with them. In this episode, you will learn the following:1. How can you be the dad you wish you had without a good example?2. What does it take for fathers who are not in the home to create a balanced family for their children?3. What can we do to overcome the pain of our own past trauma in order to be a better father?   RESOURCES Incarcerated Fathers Statistics  63% of federal inmates reported having minor children. 50% of those inmates are black men. How can we be good fathers if we are away and institutionalized?  Local Programs for Fathers - ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION   Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatha_torch/Website: www.fathatorch.comLoved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76  Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at [email protected]  Other episodes you'll enjoy: What Men Fear the Most | FATHA TORCH Overcoming the ”You Ain’t Shit” Narrative in Co-Parenting | FATHA TORCH Are You a Good Father? It All Comes Down to This | FATHA TORCH   Podcast Like a Pro! Riverside.FM Promo Code JAZZYCAST for 15% off Remote Recording  JazzCastPros.com for help launching, branding or editing your podcast.

Ep 14 Men fear being unable to provide, being questioned as fathers, and being unable to protect our loved ones. Men often express fear in destructive ways such as aggression and anger, instead of vulnerability. As men we must be mindful of how we express our fear, as it can stifle the growth of relationships and cause resentment. Instead of relying on fear, we should focus on pouring love and protection into our relationships."Love and fear are true motivation. It's only reason why we do anything."In this episode, you will learn the following:1. What is the true motivation behind a man's actions.2. How can fathers prevent themselves from stifling their children's growth?3. How can fathers build meaningful connections with their partner while still setting boundaries and limits?   Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatha_torch/Website: www.fathatorch.comLoved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76  Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at [email protected]  Other episodes you'll enjoy: Abolish Fear-Based Assumptions in 2023 | FATHA TORCH Overcoming the ”You Ain’t Shit” Narrative in Co-Parenting | FATHA TORCH Are You a Good Father? It All Comes Down to This | FATHA TORCH   Podcast Like a Pro! Riverside.FM Promo Code JAZZYCAST for 15% off Remote Recording  JazzCastPros.com for help launching, branding or editing your podcast.

Ep. 13 I was once plagued by the question, "Am I a good father?" I asked myself if I was a good man and what it meant to be a good father. After much thought and research, I realized that being a good father means having principles and characteristics such as protecting, loving, reasoning and being patient. It also means being willing to learn and humble yourself, while also being teachable and understanding of your child's mother. Being a good father is more than just providing and setting boundaries - it's about being honest, understanding and recognizing your role in your child's life. I now strive to be the best father I can be and to leave a legacy of love, respect and understanding.In this episode, you will learn the following:1. What are the characteristics of a good father?2. How can men build relationships with women who have children from previous relationships?3. What makes a bad father and how can bad fathers make amends?Resources: Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76  Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at [email protected]  Other episodes you'll enjoy:Overcoming the ”You Ain’t Shit” Narrative in Co-Parenting | FATHA TORCH Letter to My Youngest Son | FATHA TORCH Qualities of a Father with an Ungrateful Child | FATHA TORCHConnect with me:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatha_torch/Website: www.fathatorch.comLoved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser Listen Notes Chapter Summaries: [00:00:00]Father Torch is a podcast to help new and renew fathers cope with anxiety and stress. My mission is to help you reclaim your power and ease your concerns about being a father in today's social climate. What do we do to define a good father? [00:00:43]Today's episode "Are you a good father?" What is the definition or characteristic of meaning of a good dad? To be a good man, you must have these principles. [00:04:40]Most of the women or most women that we are engaged with carry 100% of the past relationships. As manhood, man of the house, you must know how to set the laws and rules. A good man, a good father first is patient and always listening. And always willing to learn. [00:12:28]Bad fathers are the ones who do not want to learn or have not learned their lesson. Good father, bad father, you are still a father. You still have a chance and have the ability to be the best of the best father that you wish you had. [00:20:05]The biggest trend that I see now with fathers and fatherhood is that they got such a fight to to try to be in the children's life. Some of us fall for it. And we end up hurt, broke, it, destruct, bitter, angry. A good father, a bad father is still a father. [00:26:19]Fathers must get with other fathers. You never raise a child by yourself. It's always a village. But because we've fallen short on this, especially our black men, our brown men, we are falling short in the elders department. We can upgrade our fathering skills. [00:28:51]Let's make 23 the year of reconcile. The year of forgiveness. The year of just doing right. Check me out again next Sunday. www.Fathatorch. com