What should you do if your family isn't on board with your goal of creating a partnership lifestyle with your dog? Many people assume that if the whole family isn't on board, it’s impossible to create a partnership lifestyle. While it can make it slightly more challenging for some, not everyone in the family has to follow "the rules" for you to develop a loving connection with your dog. Of course, it would help if everyone in the family followed your lead, but don't worry if that's not feasible. You can still build a brilliant partnership with your dog whether your family are on board or not! Kathy explains how in this episode of the Enlightened By Dogs podcast, where she shares a very special segment from a coaching session with a member of the Brilliant Partners Academy. This dog mom is dealing with the common issue of having a family who isn’t on board with everything she has learned about the partnership lifestyle. So, Kathy shares some of her best tips and strategies to help her and other dog moms make the partnership lifestyle work when their families disagree! In this episode: Why it doesn’t matter if your family doesn’t agree with what you are doing to create a partnership lifestyle with your dog How family members will gradually mirror what you’re doing with your dog How to take responsibility without confrontation Understanding that dogs behave differently with different people Read the blog post on this topic. Quotes: “You can take responsibility for certain things are likely to be confusing for the dog” “Dogs can have different relationships with each family member” “Our dogs can definitely learn and change” Want More of Kathy? Brilliant Partners Academy Dancing Hearts Dog Academy Website Facebook Community To read the blog post on this topic and to explore other episodes, click here.
What should you do when your dog refuses to listen? You tell them to come to you, they run in the opposite direction. You ask them to stop barking, and they bark louder. You ask them to get off the couch, and they snuggle into it some more. You get the idea. Sometimes, it feels like our dogs are rebellious on purpose. They flat out refuse to listen, and you’re left wondering if they go out of their way to make your life harder. When your dog refuses to listen to you, what should you do about it? In this episode of Enlightened By Dogs, Kathy shares a segment from a coaching call she did with members of the Brilliant Partners Academy. It was such a great lesson on what you can do when your dog gives you a hard time and how to reconnect with your dog when they just won’t listen to you. Enjoy! In this episode: Hear from a member of the BPA who has a dog who has changed their behavior recently Why you need to change your perspective as a dog mom when things don’t go as planned Why your dog’s “misbehavior” is their way of trying to communicate with you What to do if your dog doesn’t like the leash Tips to help improve your walking partners dance Read the blog post on this topic. Quotes: “My dog is not giving me a hard time, my dog is having a hard time” “The leash is what you make it to mean” “Walking on a leash is a learned skill that requires a high level of impulse control from both parties” Want More of Kathy? Brilliant Partners Academy Dancing Hearts Dog Academy Website Facebook Community To read the blog post on this topic and to explore other episodes, click here.
When faced with difficult times, it can be hard to pull yourself out of it. Thankfully, there are things you can do to get through the hard days and emerge out on the other side, ready to live your best life with your dog. Even without words, it can often seem like your dog understands you better than most people. They’re with you for all of life’s ups and downs, always ready to lend a helping paw and provide support when you need it most. Sometimes, it can feel like you’re drowning in hard times. It seems to be one piece of bad news after the other, and it’s easy to feel worn down because of it. Kathy understands this feeling all too well, which is why she is dedicating this episode of the Enlightened By Dogs podcast to help you get through hard times and come out stronger on the other side. Listen in to find out how you can get through difficult times and how your dog helps you every step of the way, even though you might not realize it! In this episode: How dogs show us the path forward Why you need to take baby steps towards your vision How to stay focused and not let yourself get stuck in a rut The power of breathing during hard times Why you should seek support when you need it Read the blog post on this topic. Quotes: “The power of living a partnership lifestyle lies in baby steps and celebrating each one of those” “Breathing is really helpful because it helps us get back to our vision” “This moment is the only moment that we have to create tomorrow” Want More of Kathy? Brilliant Partners Academy Dancing Hearts Dog Academy Website Facebook Community To read the blog post on this topic and to explore other episodes, click here.
Are you and your dog resilient? Building resilience is so important to create a strong partnership with your dog. Yet, not many people talk about the power of resilience within the dog community. It’s time to change that! Being resilient gives you the ability to adapt quickly and bounce back stronger when things don’t go as planned. However, it’s important that both you and your dog are resilient, which is something that you can work on together. But, what does it mean be resilient? And, how can you and your dog build your resilience together? In this episode of Enlightened By Dogs, I re-visit some key lessons I taught during a very special masterclass inside the Brilliant Partners Academy. You’ll discover why you need to be resilient if you want to build a strong, successful partnership with your dog. You’ll also learn how resilient partners never give up, even when life gets really tough. Listen in to find out how you and your dog can build a resilient partnership! In this episode: Why you need to create social support for your dog The importance of giving your dog some control over their own life How to create mental, emotional, and physical balance Six ways to build resilience The sources of resilience Read the blog post on this topic. Quotes: “Resilient partners don’t give up when life gets hard” “Dogs need to feel that they have some amount of control over their own life” “Choice is essential for a balanced mind” “Remember that we are keepers of the light. Our dogs need us to love them, to be open minded, to be resilient and bounce back” Want More of Kathy? Brilliant Partners Academy Dancing Hearts Dog Academy Website Facebook Community To read the blog post on this topic and to explore other episodes, click here.
Don’t you hate it when other people get involved with you and your dog’s way of life? Or worse, when disrespectful dog people don’t follow the rules and cause a dramatic event to happen with your dog? It’s so frustrating when things happen that are out of your control. But, the one thing that you can control when the unexpected happens are your thoughts. Your thoughts can bring you (and your dog) down if you aren’t careful, which is why I want to shine a light on this topic to help you reframe your thoughts about those disrespectful dog people. Listen in to hear how you can reframe your thoughts using the Thought Reframe Protocol, a six-step process that will help you take control of your thoughts and stay connected with your dog despite what might be going on around you. In this episode: Why you need to stop being so hard on yourself How negative thoughts can break your connection with your dog How to use the Thought Reframe Protocol to reframe your thoughts How to put the Thought Reframe Protocol into action Read the blog post on this topic. Quotes: “Change a thought that is not serving the future that you are creating” “Rinse and repeat until the new thought becomes habitual, and becomes your default way of thinking” “We're teaching our dogs to earn through social learning” “This is going to change your life with your dog” Want More of Kathy? Brilliant Partners Academy Dancing Hearts Dog Academy Website Facebook Community To read the blog post on this topic and to explore other episodes, click here.
Do you want to start banking trust with your dog? The more trust your dog has in you, the better prepared you will both be when confronted with an unexpected or traumatic event. If your dog has experienced a traumatic event or has PTSD from such an event, supporting and making your dog feel safe is so important. As dog moms (and human beings), we hate to see a dog in any pain or emotional distress. If we could protect all of the dogs in the world from such things, we would. Unfortunately, we can’t protect every dog, but we can be there for our own. In this episode of Enlightened By Dogs, you’ll learn how you can start banking trust with your dog and what you can do to help your best friend recover from traumatic experiences. I also share how learning how you should behave during and after an unfortunate incident could save your dog from a lot of stress, anxiety, and further trauma. In this episode: Why communication and connection are so important How to be the person that your dog finds trustworthy How to start banking trust with your dog How to behave and recover from a traumatic event Read the blog post on this topic. Quotes: “How you behave during & after a traumatic event is more important than what actually happened during the traumatic event.” “We can teach our puppies to move toward us for comfort and love and protection.” “We can show our dogs that that scary thing is not going to harm us through our own behaviour…that way, we're letting our dog know that we are keeping them safe.” Want More of Kathy? Brilliant Partners Academy Dancing Hearts Dog Academy Website Facebook Community To read the blog post on this topic and to explore other episodes, click here.
Are you an advocate for your puppy or young dog? When dogs are young, they are very impressionable. An unfortunate event or situation has the potential to impact the rest of their lives. Exposure to an aggressive dog can make a young puppy nervous around other dogs as they get older. A bad experience with a vehicle can make a dog fearful around traffic. The list goes on and on! As dog moms, it is up to us to protect our puppies and young dogs. As their advocate, we need to make sure that we don’t put them in a situation that could potentially harm them in any way. We have to be observant and willing to keep our dogs safe no matter what. I have always believed that one of the best ways that we can keep our puppies and young dogs safe is by being their advocate. In this episode of Enlightened By Dogs, I share how you can be an advocate for your puppy or young dog by keeping them safe and building trust. In this episode: Why puppies and young dogs are so impressionable The importance of being your puppy or dog’s advocate when they are young What to do when somebody offers training advice or takes control of your dog without your permission How you can be your dog’s advocate in everyday life Read the blog post on this topic. Quotes: “As loving dog moms, it's our responsibility to be an advocate and a voice for our dog.” “Stay mentally, emotionally and physically connected with your dog.” “Being an advocate for our dog means also being able to foresee situations that might put our puppy or our dog in harm's way.” Mentions from this episode: EBD072 3 Dog Socialization Mistakes You Must Avoid Want More of Kathy? Brilliant Partners Academy Dancing Hearts Dog Academy Website Facebook Community To read the blog post on this topic and to explore other episodes, click here.
Bettina's life was turned upside down when they decided to adopt Murphy, a deaf dog with OCD, after seeing his handsome face on a rescue website. It quickly became apparent that Murphy had a LOT more going on than a hearing impairment... In this episode: How Bettina adopted Murphy and gave him a loving home How Murphy’s behavior suddenly changed after a swim in the lake Murphy’s OCD diagnosis and his experience with a behavioral specialist How Murphy’s behavior impacted Bear and Mary Why Bettina decided to join BPA How the BPA helped to bring peace and harmony back into Bettina’s life How much Murphy has changed since joining BPA Quotes: “We were like prisoners in our own house” “The beauty of the Partnership Lifestyle is that it's not just for our dogs, it's also for us” “The safe, calm, & happy protocol was a lifesaver… we haven't had any fights in two years” “You have to take it day by day and you have to really pay attention to where his needs are because it's different all the time.” Want More of Kathy? Brilliant Partners Academy Dancing Hearts Dog Academy Website Facebook Community To read the blog post on this topic and to explore other episodes, click here.
Stella's wild child Henna was a special puppy who endured serious illness, affecting her brain and their relationship. Henna's lunging and barking at everything embarrassed Stella, who became stressed about the effect this out of control dog was having on the family. Resonating with the BPA focus on heart, connection and understanding, Stella joined the BPA and soon began to really 'hear' Henna. She soon realized that it was fear and lack of trust that was the driver for the unruly behavior. The Brilliant Partners Academy became their guiding light. When speaking about her time as a member of BPA, Stella said, “after just six months of being in BPA, our lives were transformed.” Stella and Henna have come a long way in a short space of time, proving that it doesn’t take an eternity to create a loving partnership connection with our dogs. In this episode of Enlightened By Dogs, you’ll hear Stella and Henna’s story from ‘the dark days’ of Henna’s unruly behavior to nowadays, where she has become the light and joy of Stella’s life! Enjoy! In this episode: Henna’s behavioral issues before joining BPA Why Stella was looking for a holistic approach to help Henna Henna’s medical issues and how they affected her brain and behavior What made Stella decide to join BPA and why she resonated with our core principles How life has changed since Stella and Henna joined BPA Some BPA strategies that have helped improve Henna’s behavior The importance of listening to your dog and making them feel safe Stella shares her advice for other struggling dog moms Read the blog post on this topic. Quotes: “I thought I knew an awful lot about dogs, and I thought I knew a lot about so called training, and Henna proved me completely wrong” “I forgot to tell her that I loved her” “BPA is about really connecting with your dog and really listening to your dog and not trying to fix your dog” “One of the turning points was when I accepted her for who she is” “Now she feels that she's part of the family” “BPA will change your life and it will bring you so much joy and empathy” Want More of Kathy? Brilliant Partners Academy Dancing Hearts Dog Academy Website Facebook Community To read the blog post on this topic and to explore other episodes, click here.
Ros adapted to life with her two beautiful but reactive Vizsla girls by avoiding encounters with other dogs and becoming hyper-vigilant. But this was not a sustainable way to live and Ros soon found herself filled with anxiety about the possibility that anything would suddenly appear. People, dogs, cyclists, joggers, wildlife all caused panic, and the treat training around triggers did little to calm Ros or her dogs. Taking a leap of faith in joining BPA, Ros went to work learning how to be a good role model, remain calm and to be present and connected with her dogs. Analyzing every choice through the Safe, Calm and Happy protocol became a way of life. In this episode of Enlightened By Dogs, you’ll hear the full story from Ros herself and discover how joining BPA helped calm Phoebe and Myrtle, two adorable but reactive Vizslas! In this episode: Get to know Phoebe and Myrtle and find out what triggers their reactive and fearful behavior How Ros dealt with her dogs’ behavior before joining BPA Why Ros decided to join BPA and how it surprised her How BPA has helped Ros connect with her dogs What Ros likes best about the BPA including the community and partnership principles Quotes: “I prioritized everything about my life around her.” “The support that you get from the people in the group…is amazing.” “Myrtle really blossomed and her relationship with me is completely different from how it was before.” Love this and want more? Subscribe to the Enlightened By Dogs podcast in your favorite app! Don’t forget to leave us a rating and review – it would make Kathy and all of her four-legged friends very happy! Kathy is offering a big “thank you” for rating and reviewing the show on Apple Podcasts! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts Connect on Facebook: facebook.com/dancinghearts/ For more information and to read the blog post on this topic go to dancingheartsdogacademy.com/blog