My coach recently invited me to do an intriguing exercise: List all the things you feel you ought to do and should do if you were a better husband, father, missionary, etc. What are the things you feel you should be doing in every area of life? What are you not doing that makes you feel not good enough?

I was horrified. "That sounds terrible!"

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