Nobody warns you that the hardest parenting years might come after your kids are grown. We opened with a story Jay picked up in a Delta Lounge, a man quietly putting on tefillin who turned out to be a Soviet Jew that did not learn he was Jewish until his family reached America. That pulled us into the Rebbe and Soviet Jewry, quiet diplomacy versus loud demonstrations, and a father exiled to Kazakhstan whose wife made ink from berries so his Torah could survive.

Then we turned to the question a lot of you have written in about: how do we stay parents to our kids once they are adults with lives, spouses, and kids of their own?

In this episode, we get into:

• Why grown children still need their parents more than anyone expects, and what that means for us

• Where the boundary sits, and how to give feedback that lands from a place of love instead of criticism

• Protecting your spouse first, and why in-laws have to tread more carefully than parents

• Raising kids who become friendly with you without ever forgetting you are the parent

• Free choice, and how you can do everything right and still get a result you did not plan for

• Overbearing parents, helicopter moms, the Little League dad, and when to bring in a third party

Whether you are the parent watching your kid make a call you would not make, or the adult child trying to keep the peace, come sit with us. There is grace in here for both sides.