We all do it. We’ll all continue to do it. The thing about us white-bodied folks is that we often go so far out of our way to avoid it that we end up not doing the things that help us learn and grow.The reality is that we can’t avoid it. What if, instead, we worked to develop the capacities necessary to ‘step in it’, and not break relationship? Not leave? Not disappear down a shame spiral? That’s what this episode is all about.