Sex is such a volatile topic, often associated with shame and secrecy. Yet, God created us as sexual creatures, and I believe that should be explored and celebrated!
Here are 4 steps you can take today to improve your sex life and, in turn, your intimacy with your spouse.
1. Make your marriage a safe place to be known. Create an environment in your marriage where you accept one another for all your imperfections. Strive to be able to be emotionally vulnerable with one another, “naked and unashamed.”
2. Develop a healthy view of sex. Make sex about fostering intimacy with your partner and seek to provide the other person with pleasure.
3. Stop using sex as a weapon. Unknowingly, we can use sex against our mate by withholding sex, manipulating when and how intercourse occurs, or by demonstrating interest in people outside of our marriage.
4. Seek healing from past sexual trauma. One in three women and one in six men have been the victim of sexual assault before the age of 18. Find a good Christian counselor and work through feelings of hurt, shame, resentment, and anger that you might have. Unhealed wounds will continue to negatively affect your sexuality.