Year of Second Chances As we get closer to the end of 2020, I’m noticing there are two very different kinds of people in my life: 1) People who are waiting to see what is going to happen next. While they are living in everyday life, they are paused. 2) People who have decided that life is too short to wait for things to happen. They’re starting businesses, buying homes, traveling, and more. Have you taken advantage of the opportunity to reevaluate your path and live your passion in 2020? Are you willing to explore the possibilities of a new direction? While reserving the right to do nothing at all? Do you have desire or fear for things not in your life or anticipated for the future? Are things presently in your life causing you pleasure or distress? That should get the juices flowing. The reset has only begun. If you even want to reinvent yourself, this is the year to make it happen.
Everybody has a lot to do. If you use a To-Do list to keep up - and it's stressing you - it may be time to replace it with a "Did I Do It List." To-Do Lists transform you into an expert at chasing checkmarks. Chasing anything is stressful - and there is a better way: 1) Never commit to more than you can get done in one day. That takes awareness and honesty. 2) Once you know what you need to get done, add it to your "Did I Do It List" and use it for reference throughout your day. 3) Always double-check that you are accomplishing tasks you determined as vital before taking on additional items. A focused path produces fewer random tasks. Using a "Did I Do It List" will focus you on your goals and create quick results.
Transitional Relationships Socrates had it right when it comes to friendship - “Be slow to fall into friendship, but when thou art in, continue firm and constant.” Having great friends and healthy relationships is an asset. They give you more energy and make life more enjoyable. But not all relations can or should last forever. Transitional relationships come into your life for a reason and a season. They could be a transactional relationship with a Realtor helping you sell your home. A mentor who steps into your life - even be a new romantic relationship after a breakup. Transitional relationships enter your life to help you go from where you are to where you want to go. Once you’re there, they are no longer needed.
Controlling Communication and Staying Focused We live in a world where an open communication line is a significant factor in moving forward. But how do you keep things flowing and stay focused on what is important to you? There is a method used by improvisational actors to keep the conversation flowing. It involves agreement and modifiers such as "Yes" and "And." Answering "Yes" removes any block and keeps the flow going. But since you want to control your focus, adding ”If” and “And" allows you to redirect for your benefit. Here's an example. Them: "Hey? Do you think you can help me with a project?" You: "Yes, I would love to help. IF it's okay, I need to finish what I'm doing, AND I can call you later." All it takes is three words for you to stay focused on the track to your goals.
Creating More Time For Yourself We all have lots to do every day. Wouldn’t it be great if you could manufacture more time? The trick is how you prioritize tasks and projects already on your plate - and updating how you think: 1) If a task requires thinking, multitasking is a myth. You are switching your focus. That’s time-wasting and tiring. 2) Working on multiple projects that require your brain delays the outcome from every project on your list. 3) When you focus on completing a single project, you begin to get the benefits it produces far earlier - and longer. You will also find more time available for your next project. The next time you need more time to get things done, ask yourself - “What project or task can I complete that will begin producing results the fastest?” Get excited. You are about to build massive momentum!
Release Stress With Grounded Logic Are you feeling a little more stressed than you usual? I have a time-proven and very human way of releasing or at least managing your stress. If you can pause your mind from spinning for a few minutes, try this: 1) Recognize that you are viewing your current situation from an emotional state-of-mind. We all do. However, significant decisions rarely come from emotions. 2) While paused, gather all facts that are driving how you feel. The goal is to understand what is going on in your life logically. 3) Once you separate your emotions from the facts, you will see what is causing your stress. You will also see options for removing it from your life. 4) Now, it’s time to commit to taking action to remove what is causing stress - even if it scares you. Always check your emotions with logical thinking. When you do, a plan will emerge, and stress will disappear. Try it today.
7 Rules to Life-Long Happiness I'm a fan of Stoic Philosophy. While it may be over 2,000 years old, its practicality is still useful. These rules to live by will help you have a happier life: 1. If you're going to learn and succeed, be humble. There is always someone smarter, more successful, and wiser. 2. Find the right scene. Choose your friends and situations. If you want to rise in life, you can't allow yourself to be held down by others. 3. Protect your time. Seneca said, "We're tight-fisted with property and money, yet think too little of wasting time, the one thing about which we should all be the toughest misers." Life is short. 4. Never do anything out of habit. Always think about how you can do things better and always question yourself. 5. Keep it simple — do your job. Approach every task as if it were your last because it very well could be. 6. Adapt and learn from failure. Using your success to justify complacency is common. It's also easy, which is why most people do it. You can do more and be better. 7. Live below your means. The more you need work to maintain your needs, the less you will enjoy what you have. Everything in life comes down to keeping things simple and mastering the basics. That's how you get the success you deserve.
4-Question To Ask Before Starting Any Goal Do you have dreams of what you want for the future? Have you ever wondered your inner-voice will lead you in the right direction? These four questions will help sort out everything for you: 1) What is it? Do you understand exactly what you want? 2) How does it work? How will you go about reaching your goal? What will likely be the outcome? 3) Can you do it? Is your plan reasonable? Do you have the time, skills, money? 4) Are you sure? If you are willing to put in the effort are you confident you can achieve your goal? Why hold yourself back from turning your dreams into reality? All you need is a little clarity.
Self-Made Success Requires No Permission The year 2020 has proven to be a never-ending challenge for many. It has also confirmed that having control of your mindset and actions are now pivotal traits. I've worked with thousands of people who find themselves against a wall and stuck in neutral. Two things always happened: 1) Through no fault of their own, everything familiar was no longer. They know they need to pivot but are frozen. 2) Not knowing which way to go, they were waiting for permission to get started - even if it was from themselves. The solution is to start thinking like a self-made person. Being self-made means that YOU decide what YOU want, and YOU don't need to wait for anybody's permission. You do it. You have everything inside of you to make 2020 a great year. Accept that change must happen and take action right away.
Busting Through Limiting Beliefs Have you ever had the feeling that something is holding you back? You have limiting beliefs. You were not born with limiting beliefs. Your experiences have installed a belief system within you. It serves as your guide in everything you do. The next time you find yourself unable to move forward, try these steps: 1) Identify the thought or behavior that is blocking you. In today’s busy world, that can be a challenge. Catch yourself in the act, pause, and identify what you are feeling. 2) Test that feeling by asking WHY you feel that way. Is it real, or is it an automatic response? Is it necessary for you? Would you like to keep it or change it? 3) Validate the answer you gave yourself, and commit to experiences that support your goals. You are now changing the path of your life. Having limited beliefs is ordinary and necessary. Can you imagine what your life would be like if you had no limits at all? Wait? You don’t!